Addressing Invites

emersic9

I posted this on the "Invites" board as well. I wasn't sure where to get an answer for this question, so I figured I'd try TK.

I have several friends who are married that we are inviting to the wedding. There are a few friends I have whose husbands I have not really met. Obviously, I want to invite the couple. How do I go about addressing their invites? I've always thought that usually it's:

Mr. & Mrs. Husband's name and their last name.

But, if I don't really "know" their husbands, I feel odd addressing the envelopes like that.

According to etiquette, do I still do so regardless of how "odd" I feel about it? Or can I go about addressing it:

Mr. & Mrs. Wife's name and their last name.

TIA!

MyNameIsNot

You would address to Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Hislast if they have the same last name.  

While it isn't technically correct, many people are using Mr. and Mrs. Herfirst and Hisfirst Hislast.  

NOLAbridealmost

I know what you mean. If you're friends with Jane and barely know John it would seem weird including Jane on "Bob's" invitation.  But don't worry! It's perfectly proper to do it Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Lastname.    

It's not technically correct, but I see nothing wrong with "Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe" on the same line if you really can't wrap your mind around leaving off your friend's first name from the invite.

By the same token, if your friends still use their maiden names the proper way is:

Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe  on the same line with the lady always listed first.

RaptorSLH

I've seen Mrs Hername and Mr Hisname Lastname, too.

I don't know what's technically correct, but I know I will not be addressing any couples as Mr and Mrs Hisname Lastname, for reasons of personal ethics.

mari0225

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-invites-15?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7509609f-61ab-43fb-b72e-cde99a41657cPost:eba570e8-19f8-47a9-bbb8-259ebf03614c">Re: Addressing Invites</a>:
[QUOTE]I know what you mean. If you're friends with Jane and barely know John it would seem weird including Jane on "Bob's" invitation.  But don't worry! It's perfectly proper to do it Mr. and Mrs. Hisfirst Lastname.     It's not technically correct, but I see nothing wrong with "Mrs. Jane Doe and Mr. John Doe" on the same line if you really can't wrap your mind around leaving off your friend's first name from the invite. By the same token, if your friends still use their maiden names the proper way is: Ms. Jane Smith and Mr. John Doe  on the same line with the lady always listed first.
Posted by NOLAbridealmost[/QUOTE]

That is what I did with the Save the Dates, since I don't know the husbands all that well.