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Not sending STD, but sending invite = B list?

If you sent out STD's, but not to everyone you are sending an invite to, did you B list them? Thoughts?

Re: Not sending STD, but sending invite = B list?

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    No, I wouldn't consider that a "B" list.   

    B-listing is when you invite one group of people (the "A" list), and when RSVPs come back and some of them won't be attending, you then start inviting from your "B" list to fill seats.   

    As long as everyone gets their invitations from the same mailing, it's not B-listing.  It's fairly common to send STDs out to a smaller group of people.
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    I am sending STDs to people I'm positive will get invites.

    There's a few people we are on the fence about that I'm not sending STDs to but may send invite.

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    Not at all. I would highly encourage you to avoid sending stds to your entire guest list so you have some flexibility if budget or other circumstances change.
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    edited March 2013
    Also: STDs are simply a courtesy that popped up in the last decade to alert VIPs if they might need to travel or attend a wedding on a holiday weekend. Now they have become (almost an AW) thing used by most brides even if the wedding is local. You can send them to your whole guest list if you want, but do it at your own risk.....there is NO going back once someone receives an STD--even if your budget or relationship with the recipient changes.
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    No. We sent invitations to a few people that we hadn't sent STDs to. We didn't wait for the RSVPs of others to come in before we sent those invitations. THAT's B-listing. 
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    Nope. In my opinion, that is the *correct* way to send STDs & invites. I only sent STDs to my close family members, bridal party and super close friends who lived out of state. Then I sent invites to everyone at once. This is not b-listing at all.
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    Nope. We added several people to our invite list after STD's went out. As long as invites all go out together and you don't get a deline from Aunt Sally and think "oh good, now I can invite Johnny", you aren't B- listing. 
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    Thanks for asking this question! We did it that way but I'd been worried about offending people accidentally if they found out. We did send them in circles, which meant a few we are definitely inviting didn't get them.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-sending-std-but-sending-invite-b-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:754f03e3-f53a-4958-9000-42f0eceb8fb8Post:b1287436-b960-489c-8133-1a81362dd097">Re:Not sending STD, but sending invite B list?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for asking this question! We did it that way but I'd been worried about offending people accidentally if they found out. We did send them in circles, which meant a few we are definitely inviting didn't get them.
    Posted by Xstatic3333[/QUOTE]

    <div>Me, too! We really hadn't completed our guest list when we sent STD's. Now that we are preparing our invites, we are adding about 30 more people, and I was worried how it might look. </div>
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    My Fi and I decided to save on postage to only send STDs to out of town guests so they have plenty of time to get good rates on plane tickets. Our wps already know when the wedding is and made themselves available. As for everyone else, I plan on sending the invites an appropriate amount of time before the wedding.
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