When people assume everyone and their momma is invited?

lauramarquez99

So mom invited a cousin of hers from California - who she hasn't seen in over 30 years and when her cousin called to tell her if she's coming or not - she assumed it was everyone and her family.  She said - okay we will be six!

Mom to be polite agreed but she didn't know what to say.

The wedding is not until October and I don't know these people.

I told her that she should not talk to her and see if they forget about the wedding.  Hey - if they have no invitation why will they come right?

What is something that we should do just in case this happens again.

danieliza1127

I agree that your mom is just going to have be strong and call the cousin back and clear up any misunderstanding.  You do have to invite the cousin with her/his spouse, but you don't have in invite all of their kids.  Also, your mom shouldn't be verbally inviting anyone!  If she didn't do that, this probably wouldn't have happened.

lizziemoopsc

Ever since FI and I got engaged we have had so many people say "oh I can't wait to go" or "I'm invited right?" or other variations. We are having a tiny wedding (under 40 guests) and funnily enough, it's the people that we aren't close to and haven't seen in months/years and aren't invited. We've tactfully explained that it is an immediate family and very close friends only wedding, but it still blows my mind when people assume they are invited!