Alright, I need some advice. OK, here's a bit of back story. For our guest list, my FI and I allowed our parents to give us a list of people they want invited. We took the lists into consideration, but we had to eliminate a few so that we didn't go over our budget.
OK, here's the now story. I'm prepping addresses for my upcoming bridal shower and my FMIL submits a list to me with all the people that ARE NOT invited to the wedding. She told me she still wants them to come to the bridal shower even if they aren't invited to the wedding. I thought that this was a definite "No-no" in etiquette. I don't want people to think that they are good enough to give us free gifts and money, but aren't good enough to come to the wedding.
Should we tell her that they can come as long as she tells them and they know that they are coming on their own free will and won't be invited to the wedding? Which, I doubt she would actually tell them that and just tell us that she did. I'm just so confused.