reception

alandjr

ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?

mica178

You should not invite people to the ceremony who are not also invited to the reception.

ootmother2

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[QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

You can't invite people to the wedding and not the reception, it's extremely rude.

whitsy

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[QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.<strong>  any suggestions?</strong>
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

Don't do it.

RaptorSLH

[QUOTE]we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>There is no polite way to word an impolite invitation.

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Kate61487

Putting seperate reception cards is very common if the reception is in a different location and/or there's a gap. Mine was something like

"Please join us after the ceremony to continue the celebration. 

Cocktails to begin at 5 o'clock. 

Reception Location Address, etc. "

That card should be placed in EVERY invitation, because like PPs said it's hella rude if you don't.

FutureMrsTR

South Florida.  Of course.

ahhhitsshannyn

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[QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them. <strong> any suggestions?</strong>
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

"You are important enough to us to allow you to bring a gift, but not important enough for us to pay for your dinner. See ya!"

PetalPockets2012

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[QUOTE]South Florida.  Of course.
Posted by FutureMrsTR[/QUOTE]

Good thing I'm from the West Coast ;)

My suggestion is the same as PPs. Invite everyone to the reception. If you cannot afford to provide the same reception for everyone, then host the reception you can afford. Cake and punch for all is better than a fancy dinner for some.

ElisabethJoanne

Get an updated copy of Amy Vanderbilt's Complete Guide to Etiquette. This was OK in 1958. It's not OK in 2012.

KellyBrian2013

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[QUOTE]ok <strong>we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception</strong>, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]

The "wedding" is one event, consisting of two parts: ceremony and reception. In other words, the reception is part of the wedding.

Also, it is rude to invite people to one half of the event and not the other (having a tiered wedding). Don't do it.

RebeccaB88

Everyone must be invited to each event. 

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]ok we are inviting more people to the wedding than the reception, so we are putting seperate reception cards in our invitations, but I just dont know how to word them.  any suggestions?
Posted by alandjr[/QUOTE]
This is horribly and unforgivably rude.  <strong>Everyone </strong>invited to the ceremony must be invited to the reception, no exceptions.