Wording help needed.

jgreer9604

Good Morning. Knowing I can trust ya'll to be honest, here is the situation. FI and I are having a 2pm wedding with a 3-5  pm reception at the church. (cake, finger foods, dry, no dancing) . We are then hosting a party at a local hotel at 6:30 with drinks, dancing, and a buffet style meal.  On the reception card I plan on putting
 
"Please join us for refreshments in the chapel immediately following the ceremony."

I would then like to add. "We will continue to celebrate with an adult-only party at _______________  beginning at 6:30.  Please join us for drinks and dancing. 

There will be an opportunity to RSVP for both.  But I worry that adult-only sounds like we will be doing S&M or some other porn stuff.  And I am just not sure that this sounds right.  Any opinions would be appreciated.  TIA

Mrs.B6302007

Don't say adult only.  INvitations are for telling who is invited, not who isn't.

chelseamb11

Agreed. Don't put adult only.  If you don't want kids at the reception, don't invite them to the ceremony either.  Just make sure you address the invites to "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe", not "The Doe Family" or something else that implies the kids.

adamar15

Don't put adult only.  Just out of curiosity, what's the reason for the two separate parties?

Mrs.B6302007

That's what I was wondering, Adamar.
A 2 hour church reception is kind of long.  And then having people drive to another location for the dinner and dancing?  Isn't there anyway to just skip the church reception and go straight to the hotel?  Without a gap, of course, so your ceremony time would have to change and if that's not possible, then you could just do a hosted cocktail hour at the hotel from 3-4 while you do pictures and then start the reception right after.

jgreer9604

Thanks for the wisdom, just typical me over thinking.  We don't even have any kids on our invite list, I think there are two teenagers.  What a dope, did I think they were just going to drop out of the kid sky? 

Adamar, my FI really wanted to have an afternoon wedding, we really wanted to host our church family in a respectful way but we both have famililes that like to really party.  So this seemed to be the best way to compromise.  Not to mention my sisters, all 5 of them, are from out of state, I see them maybe once every couple of years, and we really wanted to extend the celebration with them, but did not want to be exclusive.  I just hope we are not screwing anything up etiquette wise.

Mrs.B6302007

I'm still confused.  Is everyone going to be receiving the same reception invitation?

Mrs.B6302007

Oh, wait. Are you saying that you're inviting everyone to everything but that the people at church who don't want to do dancing would most likely just opt for the church reception?

jgreer9604

yes, they are.  On my way to work.  Am interested in what ya'll are saying will check in when I get in the office, thanks for your help

jgreer9604

yes, that is what I am saying.  That those from the church (where I also work) who don't want to participate in the D&D will opt out although they are invited

adamar15

I'll be honest, I'd have to pretty close to you to want to spend that much time at your wedding.

aragx6

^Sounds like as long as her sisters are there she'll be happy. I mean hell we spent 3 fully hosted days with our family at the DW we went to in April.

jgreer9604

I really do understand what you are saying.  Sometimes I do feel like the whole idea is a little excessive, but our intention was to best host those invited.  And selfishly, I really didn't want our party to end at 5.  And it seems like this will be the time for us to be able to relax, breath and really just enjoy those closest to us. 

nextrightthing

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[QUOTE]I really do understand what you are saying.  Sometimes I do feel like the whole idea is a little excessive, but our intention was to best host those invited.  And selfishly, I really didn't want our party to end at 5.  And it seems like this will be the time for us to be able to relax, breath and really just enjoy those closest to us. 
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</div><div>Seems like you are totally fine with what you are planning.  The invite language sounds fine to me, but take out the adults-only language.  You could also shorten it by saying, "Refreshments to follow, and dinner and dancing beginning at xx:xx"

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