Significant Others of the Wedding Party

Cowgirlup07

I have no idea how to organize the significant others of our wedding party. Normally I would just let them sit where they choose but I worry that they won't know many people and will feel left out (we won't be having assigned seating). I have been this significant other at previous weddings and I hate the feeling. We were thinking about putting them all together at one table (near the VIP/family area). Or maybe just having a sweetheart table then letting all of the wedding party sit with their significant others but I feel like a sweetheart table would feel isolated as well. Any ideas?

ootmother2

Do a sweetheart table.  You won't be sitting that long to worry about it and your friends will thank you for letting them sit with their SOs

Beachy730

Is it an option for you and your FI to sit at a table with both of your parents and grandparents?  Or just parents and siblings? 
We had a head table, but I only didn't feel bad about splitting up the couples because all of the SO's either had family or really good friends to sit with.  And I hate to admit it but thats what we were used to so thats what we did.  But if anyone of the SO's didn't know people we would have done a sweetheart table. 

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I have no idea how to organize the significant others of our wedding party. Normally I would just let them sit where they choose but I worry that they won't know many people and will feel left out (we won't be having assigned seating). I have been this significant other at previous weddings and I hate the feeling. We were thinking about putting them all together at one table (near the VIP/family area). Or maybe just having a sweetheart table then letting all of the wedding party sit with their significant others but <strong>I feel like a sweetheart table would feel isolated as well.</strong> Any ideas?
Posted by Cowgirlup07[/QUOTE]
You'll be sitting with your SO, so you won't be completely isolated. Besides, most weddings I've been to, the bride and groom only sat for, like, 5 minutes max. During dinner they're usually running around to each table taking pictures.

squirrly

We did a sweetheart table smack in the middle of the room with WP and family at the tables closest to us.  It worked out awesomely well.  Plus then you don't leave your tablemates stranded when you get up to do table visits.

COkristi

I agree with pp's, let your WP sit with their SO's. We had a head table (just the way the venue was set up), but at the head table we had our MOH and her bf, the BM and his wife and 2 other WP members with their spouses. The rest of the wedding party and their SO's sat at tables next to us. I really think people prefer to sit with their SO's.

megk8oz

Do the sweetheart table. We went that route, and it was really just so nice to be "alone" with DH for the few minutes that we were able to sit down and eat (You won't feel isolated-people will still come up to you, but it actually does give you a moment to breath, lol). Plus, the WP got to sit with their dates, which made everybody happy. Win-win.

saisongbird

Definitely do a sweetheart table, and let your wedding party members sit with their dates.  You get so little time alone with your new husband at the actual wedding that you'll appreciate the few moments that you do get to be alone with each other.  

karmellah

my wp requested to be seperated lmao. so ask them.

brookelynpaisley

If you've been the significant other who had to sit alone and therefore you know how crappy it is, it's beyond me why you'd consider doing that to the SOs of your closest friends. Just do a sweetheart table so they can sit together.

We came up with an alternative that we really liked: we sat with our MOH and BM (our siblings) and their SOs at a "head table" and the rest of the bridal party sat with their SOs at guest tables. We didn't like the idea of being on display at a sweetheart table, but also didn't want to split up couples, because most of the rest of our bridal party had never met. It was a good compromise.

PsyDet 2155

We are doing a captain's table: a long, rectangular table so the bridal party can sit with their dates.

mica178

Either do a king's table (long table down the middle of the room where WP and dates can sit together) or a sweetheart table.  We did a sweetheart table.  We only sat to eat quickly or to listen to the speeches, otherwise, we were saying hi to all the tables, doing the dances, etc.  While we were sitting, plenty of people came up to our table  to talk.  So we definitely were not isolated from our guests.

alainakw

Do the sweetheart table. I'm doing that as well, most of my WP are married and 1 has a baby. My FI and I hated when we were in weddings and we had to be separted pretty much the whole day.