+1 question (no, not "do I have to offer one")

rbtrumpet

I gave a blanket +1 to everyone.

I'm getting some RSVPs back with "John Smith, 2 people".  I didn't know John Smith was dating anyone.  Since I'm filling out escort cards as RSVPs come back, I'm not sure what to do.

Do I:
1) put "John Smith's guest" on the escort card?
or
2) ask John what his guest's name is?  Is there a way to do this tactfully ("hey, who's your guest" just seems a bit....odd to me)?

Thanks!

FutureMrsTR

I don't think calling and telling John Smith that you'd like his guest's name so that they have their own escort card is odd at all.  I would just call up and say, "Hey, I saw that you're bringing someone to the wedding, that's great!  What's his/her name so I can make an escort card for him/her?"

danieliza1127

Just ask him who he's bringing.  It's not weird.  You're making escort cards plus you're going to meet this person at your wedding, it'll be nice to know their name ahead of time.

september's bride

I had this happen and just emailed or called, requesting the correct spelling of the guest's name. It's the other guy's blunder, so don't worry about it.

strawberrycrz

I'd just call them up and ask them.  I don't see anything odd about doing that. 

LDYGTR13

Definitely get the name of that person. I went to a wedding in November where I knew both the bride and groom - and because FI was a groomsman he was considered the invited person and I was considered the "guest" - let's just say I was a little offended that I was called "FI's Guest" on the escort cards. Even if you don't know the person just being labeled "guest" is never very inviting.

mags0607

I think a quick phone call would be nice, and not at all awkward. That way, you can know the person'e name and be able to fill out the escort card better.

rbtrumpet

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_1-question-not-offer-one?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:7a657c37-d877-42f3-a2dd-ed19f5e657f4Post:e82a5311-621c-4610-a8fd-a7bee861af49">Re: +1 question (no, not "do I have to offer one")</a>:
[QUOTE]Definitely get the name of that person. I went to a wedding in November where I knew both the bride and groom - and because FI was a groomsman he was considered the invited person and I was considered the "guest" - let's just say I was a little offended that I was called "FI's Guest" on the escort cards. Even if you don't know the person just being labeled "guest" is never very inviting.
Posted by LDYGTR13[/QUOTE]

when I moved to DC (from MI) I went as a "guest" to a wedding for friends of the friends I was living with (the wedding was a week after I moved).  The couple saw my friend RSVP for 2, and assumed she was bringing her FI, so I was Mr. John Smith for the whole evening....I thought it was funny :-p

LD1970

A phone call is absolutely fine, or you could do combined cards rather than separate, so John Smith's would read "John Smith and Guest" rather than having a separate card for "John Smith's Guest."

campbejk

Please call the guests.  The past wedding I was "Mr. Amazing's Guest" and the one before that, I was on the same escort card as him but it said "Mr. Amaizing and Guest." 
**Mind you, we have been engaged since Jan and these were all this year.

Sagenhaft

It's a good thing I found this because I wasn't going to make one for the guests I don't know. I was just going to assume they'd know they were sitting with the invited person.

Now that I've read this, that seems kind of stupid.