guest list woes

marffin

i have invited to many people-my about 10-had lost count and mailed them b4 i knew what i did. what can i do to fix this-becuase everyone on my list said yes they will go. i thought i was being good about sendng the invites out 4 months b4 the wedding but it looks like i made it possible for everyone to plan so they can all go to it.

BunnyChii

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[QUOTE]i have invited to many people-my about 10-had lost count and mailed them b4 i knew what i did. what can i do to fix this-becuase everyone on my list said yes they will go<strong>. i thought i was being good about sendng the invites out 4 months b4 the wedding but it looks like i made it possible for everyone to plan so they can all go to it.</strong>
Posted by marffin[/QUOTE]

<div>So wait....you were hoping that by sending them out four months in advance, that people would somehow NOT be able to go? </div><div>
</div><div>You made a mistake and invited too many people. You can't disinvite anyone. You're going to have to figure out how to deal with this now.</div><div>
</div><div>Good luck.</div>

Avion22

Um, maybe just hope for some negative replies?  Or see if you can squeeze 10 more people into your budget and venue.  Venue-wise, you might be able to fit 9 at tables meant for 8....it would be a squeeze, but you could probably make it happen.  Or just add another table.   Budget-wise, you may need to cut out some things to afford 10 extra heads....or just start saving now.

mynameskatie

I'm really not sure what the point of sending them out early was, but it doesn't matter now. You can't revoke anyone's invite so now you need to make plans (Whether that means adjusting your venue or budget) to accomodate everyone that accepted. If it is a budgetary issue look at cutting something out elsewhere. If it is a space issue ask your venue if there is any option for extending the space you've already booked. If not you should probably start looking for a new location. 

SirJuliusVonHaast

I would talk to your venue to see if you can fit in the extra people. If budget is the issue, I think it's better to cut back in other places (for example only appetizers and cake, instead of a meal) rather than to univite people. 

Milsey32

For the record, you should have only invited as many people as you could afford / your venue could hold. I would celebrate that so many people would like to attend your wedding!! And as far as being 10 people over -- I hope this means budget and not venue. Start saving more, driving less (yuck gas prices!) and stop eating out. ;-) 

Mrs.B6302007

What is an "about 10"?

Habs2Hart

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[QUOTE]What is an "about 10"?
Posted by Mrs.B6302007[/QUOTE]

I think she invited about 10 over?  I don't get the "about" business either.  You should have a set number. 

And this is why people say to expect 100% attendance

b0710

Unfortunately, if you invited them and they said they are coming....they are both invited and planning to attend.  As many others said, you will have to find a way to accomodate that.  I can't see "about" 10 people being that big of a deal breaker (except for possibly budget), but hopefully you can make it work somehow since you're sort of stuck now.

mctlong

Order more food. Once they're invitited, they're invited.

redheadfsu

Ask your venue what you can do. We don't know what your venue will say.

You have to figure out how to fit everyone. There may be an extra charge, but just pay it. If for some reason you can't make it work, you have to find a new venue. But with just ten extra, hopefully you can just have an extra table squeezed in.

RebeccaB88

I might also suggest rewriting this paragraph to include punctuation, capital letters, sentences, real words, and all the words you intended to use, so that we can understand what you're saying and try to help you. 

Although, if we're guessing right and you invited too many people, you just need to do whatever you need to do to accomodate those people. Find a bigger venue, save more money, order more food, get more tables, etc.  This is your fault, so you need to fix it.

jelenybeany

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[QUOTE]I might also suggest rewriting this paragraph to include punctuation, capital letters, sentences, real words, and all the words you intended to use, so that we can understand what you're saying and try to help you.  Although, if we're guessing right and you invited too many people, you just need to do whatever you need to do to accomodate those people. Find a bigger venue, save more money, order more food, get more tables, etc.  This is your fault, so you need to fix it.
Posted by RebeccaB88[/QUOTE]



yikes.

mica178

The only thing you can do now is make sure you can host all these people properly.  You cannot uninvite people once the invitation was sent.  Scale back the appetizers, downgrade the proteins (chicken for steak), cut back on the flowers, cancel the limo and band in favor of carpooling and an iPod.  If space is an issue, find out if the venue can put people on the balconies or have tables on the dance floor that can be moved after the meal is served.

beckys67

You invited them so make it work.

Mrs.B6302007

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: guest list woes : yikes.
Posted by jelenybeany[/QUOTE]

There was nothing "yikesable" about that post at all.  When the only tool for communication on a message board is your words, it's absolutely essential that you write clearly and comprehensively.