proper wording on invites

Sschwuch · April 2011

What would be a proper way to ask guests to give gift cards or cash for a shower or wedding gift. I know this sounds tacky but the couple is moving directly after the wedding and will have difficulty moving lots of large gift items.

hlq2011 · April 2011

No can do.

Shower invitations, it's mostly okay to have registry info, but you can't ask for cash or gift cards. You can't tell guests what to give.

And gift info never goes into wedding invitations. Ever. No matter what you're asking for.

ETA: What they can do is not have a shower (because those are for actual gifts, not gift cards or cash), and then not have a registry, or have a registry of very small, transportable items. Guests will get the hint.

georgia_bride09 · April 2011

There is no proper way.

If the couple would prefer cash because they're moving, then spread it via word of mouth.

ETA: And no showers.

LDYGTR13 · April 2011

"We want your money because we don't trust you to buy us what we want - you've got terrible taste." TIA!

blush64 · April 2011

I don't think there is one. If I were going to a shower and I was told the couple wanted money or gift cards I would proably be put off. I was invited to a "money shower" and I did not attend. I would have happily given a gift but I am not an ATM.

For wedding gifts I always give money anyway.

redheadfsu · April 2011

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[QUOTE]What would be a proper way to ask guests to give gift cards or cash for a shower or wedding gift. I know this sounds tacky but the couple is moving directly after the wedding and will have difficulty moving lots of large gift items.
Posted by Sschwuch[/QUOTE]

You don't.

If the couple do not want physical gifts, they should not be having any type of shower. Showers are for physical gifts. End of story. Sorry.

You don't tell people what to give for the wedding. The couple should have a small registry or no registry at all, & (when guests ask you) tell people they are moving so they are saving for that.

nurse.misty · April 2011

Ditto PP's. If you don't want actual gifts, then don't have a shower. Make a small registry, or no registry, and guests will get the hint and give cash without being told to do so.