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Morning after brunch?

Necessary?  Pointless?
If necessary, invite everyone?  Wedding party/family? 
We're having a DW, so everyone is OOT.  Every wedding I've ever been to has had one, we've always been invited, but have never gone. 
We don't really want to do one, but if they're strongly encouraged we will go ahead and do it. 
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    I have never actually heard of this.
    Since it's  a dw, I think it is a really nice idea.

    How many people are attending your wedding?
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    I had never heard of it before TK, so I'll go with pointless.  If it's expected I guess you could do it and maybe invite everyone.  Again, I have no experience with morning after brunches.
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    Looks like about 70.
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    We had a sort-of one. H's family from OOT, H's parents/sibling and myself/H were there. It was more like a family breakfast I guess. We just went to a local restaurant, it was kind of a send-off for the OOT family.
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    nice but not necessary.  if you've never gone before, aren't morning people and/or don't have the money in the budget, no one will mind if you don't host one.
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    It's not in the budget for us to host all of our guests for breakfast. It would seriously be like hosting another reception, just in the morning, since we have so many people staying at the hotel. We're just saying, "we're having Sunday brunch at XYZ- meet up with us if you want!"
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    We were thinking about doing something super casual in our hotel room (has full kitchen and a dining room)  and having people just stop in for eggs, bacon, pancakes, mimosa etc.  It would be nice & cheap,   but... then we'd have to make sure our room was clean, get up and cook, etc.  That would be great for like 10 people, but to invite all?  Probably a little more effort that I'm going to want to put forth...
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    We had one before we left on our honeymoon with immediate family, bridal party and the family and friends who'd come to our wedding from overseas, so we'd be able to spend a bit more time with them and thank them for traveling all the way over to be with us at our wedding, before we buggared off to Quebec.
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    70 people is too many.  We were going to do a formal one, but it got too difficult to manage, so we're doing an informal one.  As in, our hotel does breakfast.  We're telling people what time we plan on eating.  It's not something we're hosting.
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    We are doing this, but only with about 20 people. We are just doing it in the hotel restaraunt and saying "Be here at this time if you want to join us."
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_morning-after-brunch-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:7f727911-c376-4c2c-9486-77294077dd5cPost:ca6a13d0-f02f-4826-ac7c-ec6c188cd9a7">Re: Morning after brunch?</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's not in the budget for us to host all of our guests for breakfast. It would seriously be like hosting another reception, just in the morning, since we have so many people staying at the hotel. We're just saying, "we're having Sunday brunch at XYZ- meet up with us if you want!"
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    </div><div>I was thinking about doing this too. I doubt we will have room in our budget to host brunch in the morning, but I would like it if people joined us for breakfast. My question is.. how do you make it clear that it is not a hosted event? It would be nice to spend that extra time with OOT guests. We've also thrown the idea around of just doing bagels, doughnuts, and coffee at someone's house if there is somewhere close enough (we haven't picked a venue yet).. we might be able to swing that, but I'll have to see as it gets closer.</div><div>
    </div><div>OP-IMO it is a nice gesture, but not necessary if you can't do it.</div>
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    It's not that we can't do it, we just don't really think it's necessary.  I kinda think the hosted welcome dinner and then the reception are enough, just wanted some other opinions :)
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    For my sisters wedding (13 yrs ago)  there was a brunch at my parents house the next day, my sister didn't show up.

    Our reception will be at a hotel and 95% of my guests will be OOT and hopefully staying at the hotel.  So I am thinking of just spreading the the word of when we plan of grabbing breakfast and encouraging them to come eat with us.  Super informal.   Of course, FI has to agree to this and I have a feeling he might like room service better...

    ETA my point is definitely not necessary, but you can enjoy their company without hosting a brunch
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    We are having one.  I don't think of it as necessary.  It's just something we decided to do. 
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    I have never heard of this in real life.  Here, the bride and groom leave for their honeymoon after the reception, so they are not available for a morning breakfast/brunch.  And the bride's parents are totally exhausted, so they don't want to host what amounts to another reception.  So it's just not done here.

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    For a friends wedding, the families hosted a next morning brunch, and it was for out of towners and close family to see the couple before the left on their honeymoon.  I guess you could call it more of a sending off party.

    My morning after brunch will probably be pretty similar to a wedding shower - wedding party, close friends, relatives, etc and we'll be opening our presents and generally just enjoying everyone's company as a married couple.  Note that the morning after brunch is my mom's idea, and so she's planning it.  Family traditions are family traditions.  Often, I think people like to see the look on your face when you open their present, especially if it's something different from the norm or something made personally for you or something like that.

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