"and guest"

kinsey0628

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[QUOTE] Look, if OP posted and said "FFIL has told us that he's in a committed relationship with his schnauzer Lucy and has asked that we refer to her as his g/f" I would've given a different answer
Posted by StephBeanWed61502[/QUOTE]

BwahhhhahahAHAHAHA!!  That's hilarious!!!

OP -- that would definitely be super weird on your FFIL's part if he arranged for his first meeting of this woman to be at your wedding.

You want to take a stand against his serial dating life style and refuse to let him bring a date to your wedding?  Go for it.  But you WILL be breaking etiquette in doing so and likely creating drama and hurt feelings, all situated around your wedding.  I agree w/ whomever said "Don't pick this hill to die on."

Just let FFIL bring his latest soulmate.  You can vent about how his lifestyle bothers you some other time.

whitsy

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[QUOTE]Yes I do not care if it's online and I know it's acceptable this day in age to meet online. I said "yes online" because he met her and is now in love with her and says it's his soulmate <strong>but has not physically met her</strong>. He has had a track record (3 marriages later, with numerous women on the side) of having lots of women drama. His last GF was insane and wanted him to kick his kids out of his life. He falls in love with women at the drop of a hat. Anyway, my FI thinks it's a little redicious as well. I will do what several people said and wait it out. My parents and I are saving our money but we do not have enough to invite everyone and guest. It's just the way it is money wise. We are only having family and no friends at our wedding because of this so that is why I want to keep the "and guest" to a minimum. Yes I know "and guest" is not acceptable to address them by on invites but I just used that as a way for people to know what I meant by adding a guest.
Posted by slpankuch[/QUOTE]

Let me tell you a little story.

My best friend, that I love to pieces, is someone I met here, on TK. And we've never met. She's there for me forever and ever, through everything, no matter what. It doesn't matter that I've never met her. It has absolutely no bearing on our relationship. Do I wish I could drive down the road and see her? Yep. But it doesn't make our relationship any less special or valid.

So take your judgey pants off.

MrsGandthebeag

DH and I met on match too.  I was lucky to only meet a few weirdos.  I opened my account in March of 07 and started dating him exclusively in July of 07.  I was lucky.  We always joke about how we could be on the commercials.  

Jaridds68

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[QUOTE]OK Cupid all the way!  I get that it could be a little premature for FI's Dad to consider someone he hasn't met in person to be his SO, but who knows where they'll be in 5 months! 5 months after meeting my BF online, we were living together!
Posted by itschelsea[/QUOTE]

<div>Same here - met my FI on OKCupid! OP: yes it's oh so shocking. </div><div>
</div><div>If your FFIL considers this interweb gal (gasp!) his SO, then she gets invited, with her name ON the invitation. Being judgemental is lameskies.</div>

mollyehren

I met my fiancee thru a local matchmaking company and my brother met his on Match.com. 

Usually you have to invite all signifigant others of your guests when you mail out invites. However with it being a FFIL I would allow them a date no matter what.

kinsey0628

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: "and guest" : Let me tell you a little story. My best friend, that I love to pieces, is someone I met here, on TK. And we've never met. She's there for me forever and ever, through everything, no matter what. It doesn't matter that I've never met her. It has absolutely no bearing on our relationship. Do I wish I could drive down the road and see her? Yep. But it doesn't make our relationship any less special or valid. So take your judgey pants off.
Posted by whitsy[/QUOTE]

Whitsy, that is so cute!!  I didn't know your BFF was from TK (why would I?)

This reminds me of the scene in "Julie and Julia" where Julia's BFF is getting off the train to meet her, and the other one is like "What does she look like?"  And Julia is all "I dunno... we've never met!"  They were just pen pals.  Super cute, haha!  ;)

Jenni8412

I had been dating my FI for 10 months when his daughter got married... I made the choice for them: it was an awkward situation and I made sure they knew that I did not want to be the black spot on HER day. Unfortunately some people don't think like this. I would give it some time and if it remains too awkward, have your FI talk to his dad about wanting him to be happy but also wanting to leave potential drama out of the wedding day.