This is one of the things I've been losing sleep over lately, and finally decided to seek out some opinions. The B List post below got me thinking about it.
Most of you might remember the issue I had with FSMIL a few weeks ago, when FI and I found FB messages she was sending to people "personally inviting" them to the wedding and apologizing for not sending a formal invite. All of this, after we had gone over with her several times why we had to keep the guest list at a certain number.
I'm pretty sure I've covered my asss. I asked her to call these people and explain that they can't come (I left it up to her how to explain why). We confirmed with her last week that she did, indeed, make those calls. And I checked with the hotels to be triple sure that nobody reserved a hotel room in our block who wasn't on the list (all was fine there).
I'm still terrified someone's going to show up who never should have been invited in the first place. Is there anything more that I can do? I don't know yet if there will be any open seats at the reception... I'm starting my RSVP-stalking calls tonight. It's likely we'll be able to sqeeze a few extras in, if it happens.
What's panicking me is that FSMIL invited at least 14 extra people.. several entire families.. (that we know of). And if she lied to me about making those calls... it's going to be really hard to "squeeze" in 14. Or more.
FI wants to give our MOC a list and permission to turn people away, and while I'd love to do that (more out of spite for FSMIL putting me in this pickle), I also know that's not a good option. Thoughts?