Rehearsal Dinner.. Help??

KTAgee

Since we got engaged, FI and I had always intended on planning and paying for the rehearsal dinner. FI has no father (truly, we have no idea who he is), and FMIL is unemployed. About two weeks ago, FMIL came to us and practically begged to "take care of" the rehearsal dinner. We agreed because we knew how much she wanted to be apart of the wedding planning process. She also guaranteed us that it would be paid for by her ex-husband. Fine. (LoL)

SO! Here's the dealio...

I talked to FMIL today and asked her, "What do you need from me?" Her only response was, "Head count!" She didn't/doesn't want names, addresses, phone numbers, etc. .. Yeaaa.. 

To be honest, I'm not entirely sure what that means. Does this mean I'm sending out invitations for the rehearsal dinner? Or am I supposed to individually call each person and invite them? I don't really know the correct protocol for the rehearsal dinner.

Any help is greatly appreciated! =D

damaless

It sounds like she is asking you how many people you expect to attend the rehearsal dinner.  I don't get the impression that she wants you to send any invitations yourself.  Maybe there are planning details that depend on the number of people, so she needs that information before she can put together any invitations, at which point she will ask you for the names/addresses/etc.

ootmother2

head count ONLY?


Your wedding is in 6 weeks right?

odd

KTAgee

Possibly... Although I told her last week that there will be 20 people. Does that change the situation at all?

EDIT:  I failed to mention that we already had the rehearsal dinner place booked for 20 people.

ootmother2

I think at this point, you probably should ust ask her how she intends to invite everyone.  Ask her if she needs a list of names or could you do that for her as a favor. 

I guess

KTAgee

Oh crazy FMIL, how I loathe dealing with thee... LawLz

srkropf

It sounds like she wants to know who you expect to come, and obviously with the list, you can include mailing/phone so she can let them know. You are very brave-- and truly not a bridezilla, by allowing your FMIL to participate like this! KUTOS!

KTAgee

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-19?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:83632f24-93b4-434b-bec9-8241653c30d6Post:8f839371-dd4f-46d2-92b1-a933d823e5bf">Re: Rehearsal Dinner.. Help??</a>:
[QUOTE]It sounds like she wants to know who you expect to come, and obviously with the list, you can include mailing/phone so she can let them know. <strong>You are very brave-- and truly not a bridezilla, by allowing your FMIL to participate like thi</strong>s! KUTOS!
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</div><div>She called us on the phone CRYING 3 weeks ago because she wasn't on the invitations!! My parents are hosting/paying for the reception. UGH!</div>