Ok.. My fianc and I got engaged in September, neither my parents or his have at all actually acknowledged the engagement. No celebration, no both families meeting, nothing. No one has asked about planning, no one has given in put or discussed financesI was at one point told by my mother that they'd pay for it then a month later that my fianc and I need to do all the deposits because if things go south they don't want to be out money. This was between October and early November. Let me say how incredibly disappointing and upsetting it is to have no one even ask you about venues or registries or picking a dateactually anythingabout what is what I thought supposed to be a happy and exciting time. I've hear tales of how much fun planning is supposed to be and got to hear about my parents engagement soire yet no one did a damn thing for us. In fact, apparently half of my family did not know anything til we went Facebook official which we waited for so that both our parents could make calls and what not. I guess the rest shouldn't surprise me much then based on the current track record.
Now, I worked for a Dj company for years and decided back then I wanted nothing to do with a wedding which I have made clear for the past 7 years. For the past seven years I have been vocal about a destination elopement because I truly do not care for the headache or stress of planning a wedding based on everyone but my fianc and myself.
I am finally at this point just fed up with the lack of interest or discussion of a wedding and we have decided to just go to townhall and invite both sets of parents which is again against the preference of us AND against my better judgement based on the lack of any excitement on everyone's part; so yet again trying to accommodate them against my better judgement. Well, my mother had the audacity to tell me that I'm doing things wrong and then go on about how I can't have a shower and won't have a reception and honestly I somehow doubt any of that was being planned since no one has asked me anything or chosen to sit down with me when asked to discuss what the budget is and what is going on. Again this friggin show was for themnot us.
So basically, I'm not sure how to break the news to my father and my fianc's parents, but mostly mine, without flipping out and telling them they had no interest and everything was to accommodate them including doing things at town hall next week when we'd much rather be in Mexico or the Bahamas alone and not having to deal with bitterness or stress, but again this is to shut them up for future conflicts of not being important enough.
Thoughts?