How much $ is too much $

mrs.mims

We're gettin married by the beach in So. Cal so that area is expensive. (we got a 20% discount, otherwise we would not be able to afford this area) We really like a hotel whose rooms range from $99 -$169. The $169.00 has a kitchen, sitting room, its huge, ita also my honeymoon suite/gettin ready room.
Is this too much money to ask a guest to shell out for their room the night of the wedding? Wedding over at 5pm, after party at hotel.
Almost all rooms have a fridge and 2 beds. Its really nice and a block away, they could walk if they were too drunk to drive there (i doubt that will happen)
Anyway, I know we live here, and you live there, and its different everywhere...but I would like the Knottie's opinions. Please vote. Thanks

ac_in_dc

Well, if it's $110 or $120 with fees that's fine. But if I call a month before the wedding and the only room I can get is for $150 or more that's too much.

But it really depends on the financial situation of your guests. If you're worried that this will be a problem for them, suggest some other, cheaper hotels nearby (you don't need to reserve blocks there, just list the info).

Stackeye210

Could you just give a few options in different price ranges and let the guests decide where they'd like to stay? 

britne28

I would think that is pretty cheap being in So Cal and by the beach.  If they don't want to stay there they could always book elsewhere.  As long as you don't make it mandatory.

nda_roxybabe

I think $100 is great.

mrs.mims

its on PCH in Laguna Beach. Literally across the street from the water, if that matters?

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]We're gettin married by the beach in So. Cal so that area is expensive. (we got a 20% discount, otherwise we would not be able to afford this area) We really like a hotel whose rooms range from $99 -$169. The $169.00 has a kitchen, sitting room, its huge, ita also my honeymoon suite/gettin ready room. Is this too much money to ask a guest to shell out for their room the night of the wedding? Wedding over at 5pm, after party at hotel. Almost all rooms have a fridge and 2 beds. Its really nice and a block away, they could walk if they were too drunk to drive there (i doubt that will happen) Anyway, I know we live here, and you live there, and its different everywhere...but I would like the Knottie's opinions. Please vote. Thanks
Posted by mrs.mims[/QUOTE]

The real question here is how much more difficult is it to add a "g" at the end of a present participle?

lilgina64

if they range from 99-169 I would just block off a few of each in the range.

99 for a hotel is pretty common in most major metropolitan areas so I think some people expect this. If this is 99 for the night in a rural area I might be a little surprised that you didnt offer at least one other option below that price.

But I think that's sufficient. If people cant afford the 99 theyll get another hotel close by that is cheaper.

Pirata13

Our hotel in my neighborhood ("hip" area, close to downtown and lots of sights, events etc) is $169/night. I feel bad, but it really is most convenient and there are other options. The hotel close to the reception is cheaper, but kind of in the middle of nowhere and not even a hotel bar, or a bar in walking distance.  We are going to have several OOT family & friends, and the reception will be over at 9.  So we KNOW we will be going out after. The more expensive hotel allows us to be able to leave our cars and go to one of several bars in walking distance, without the worry of driving while intoxicated. Or I guess for some, more intoxicated than when they left the reception.

We are letting people know the cheaper hotel is an option, but without a special rate, and letting them know the pros & cons of both places.  We asked a lot of family/friends over the holidays and most people said they would stay at the more expensive hotel mostly for logisitics, even if some didn't like the price. We aren't crazy about it either, but there aren't many options close by.

tidetravel

You can block rooms at the hotel as a courtesy to your guests, but you cannot require them to stay there.  If it's too expensive, they will find other options. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I also live in SoCal and my hotel block is $150, for many reasons.

This is the block rate, right? What is the normal rate for that hotel?

Islamorada14

Your price range is absolutely fine - actually its really great!  Last year I attended a wedding in Pittsburgh, PA and it cost $200 to stay at a freaking Holiday Inn.

mrs.mims

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[QUOTE]In Response to How much $ is too much $ : The real question here is how much more difficult is it to add a "g" at the end of a present participle?
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

you can take that shiit to the snarky board. its not uncommon to accidentally miss a key when typing. thanks.

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much $ is too much $ : you can take that shiit to the snarky board. its not uncommon to accidentally miss a key when typing. thanks.
Posted by mrs.mims[/QUOTE]

One time in a post is an accident, twice means it's a habit.  And I'm good where I am, thank you very much.

kbmeow

The hotel for my wedding starts at 145.  I did look for other hotels in the area but the ones that are close are in the same price range.  The last 4 weddings I have been to the rooms run 125-175 a night so this is acceptable to me.  Hotel prices are very regional.  What is acceptable in Boston is not necessarily acceptable in SC.

quotequeen

I think it's fine as long as you aren't telling people they have to stay there.  When my cousin got married, the hotel room was $175/night, and when I asked him if there were other hotels he said "oh I'm sure there are," but didn't offer any information about them.  I was a little annoyed by that.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]I think it's fine as long as you aren't telling people they have to stay there.  When my cousin got married, the hotel room was $175/night, and when I asked him if there were other hotels he said "oh I'm sure there are," but didn't offer any information about them.  I was a little annoyed by that.
Posted by quotequeen[/QUOTE]

Clearly you are unfamiliar with expedia or orbitz? Have you ever booked a hotel room by yourself before?

nicolepmarinelli

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much $ is too much $ : One time in a post is an accident, twice means it's a habit.  And I'm good where I am, thank you very much.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

Oh well? Was it really that big a deal?
This is a wedding board, not a spelling bee.

kindge_03

We are letting our guests have a choice between 3 hotels that are near. Ranging from the Hilton (for those who want to shell out more and make it a family vacation weekend...or so they can use their hotel points) to the Holiday Inn (for guests who are on a tighter budget). The response I've gotten is amazing. I have guests who are interested in all 3 hotels! I'm glad I did a little extra footwork and haggling to negotiate room rates for our guests.

Jessie888

I think that price is fine. In the area I am getting married, the rooms are costing way more. And I am in a wedding a few towns over, the rooms are 200+ per night.

SummerBoston10

I think that sounds really reasonable, especially for the area you are getting married in.  We are getting married in Newport, RI in July and our room blocks range from $255 - $329/night.  The $329 hotel is by far the most conveient for our guests because it is right next door to our venue.  Not one person has booked a room at either of our cheaper hotels and almost our entire block is gone at the most expensive hotel.  This tells me that people are OK with it. 

I guess it depends upon the financial situation of most of your guests, but I would not blink at the thought of spending your room rate if the hotel is nice. 

lisaj92

That sounds about right to me.  We are getting married in a hotel in FL and the rooms range from $89-$129.

themidge

if the hotel has a range of room options, why not just get the more expensive suit for you as your bridal suite/getting ready room, and everyone else can just get a more basic less expensive room?

cheyanna13

Just because you recommend it doesn't mean people have to stay there.  I gave my guests 3 suggestions at different price levels (I'm also getting married in Orange County, so I know where you're coming from).

sjnsjnsjn

Sounds cheap to me, but I live in NYC.  All my budget options listed on our website are in the $140 - 170 range, b/c that's the best there is, unless you're talking grody SRO hotel...

CaitlinH86

Our wedding is at an Inn on Georgian Bay, the rooms range from 169 to 319 per night for the most expensive room ( Honeymoon Suite). I don't think that is too much. 

Kim&KyleVT

I like the idea of giving your guests a few differnt options in the area. These days everyone's finacial circumstances are different... while a $100/$150 may be resonable to most, there may be a few that just can't do it.  You don't want to make your guests obligated to spend the money... give them some options and let them have the responsibility of making a comfortable choice.

MrsHaH101010

I think it is totally acceptable.  If your wedding guests are not comfortable paying that much they can look up something else that is nearby.

Rache Spoodeena

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[QUOTE]In Response to How much $ is too much $ : The real question here is how much more difficult is it to add a "g" at the end of a present participle?
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

That was really uncalled for. Who care if she missed two G's? Changed your whole life, did it?

By the way, your baby is ugly.

Not so fun when people are rude to you for no reason, is it?

JessAndTrav

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How much $ is too much $ : That was really uncalled for. Who care if she missed two G's? Changed your whole life, did it? By the way, your baby is ugly. Not so fun when people are rude to you for no reason, is it?
Posted by Rache Spoodeena[/QUOTE]

That was mature.

krothaug

I am going to 4 out of town weddings on top of mine at the end of summer so I have dealt a lot with the hotels lately. All the weddings I am going to listed a nice hotel that is over $100 and then have a Super 8 or something under $90. Just give your guests a couple options and they can decide what is to much money.