Website Attire Section

fmsweyd

I recently went to my fmil's second wedding, and there were actually quite a few people wearing all white.  First off, is wearing white a common thing at second weddings??

Also, on the website page that the Knot offers, there is a section for attire in the Guest information.  How can I nicely state that I don't want people wearing ALL white at the wedding??

bridezillatobe2009

there is no poliete way to tell guests how to dress, same as how to tell them what gifts (if any) to bring. hopefully your friends have good taste and don't wear all white.

i don't want people showing up in jeans to my wedding either but i'm not about to put that on the invite.

thesuninherhead

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[QUOTE]I recently went to my fmil's second wedding, and there were actually quite a few people wearing all white.  First off, is wearing white a common thing at second weddings?? Also, on the website page that the Knot offers, there is a section for attire in the Guest information.  How can I nicely state that I don't want people wearing ALL white at the wedding??
Posted by fmsweyd[/QUOTE]
<p> </p><p>I'm afraid that you can't state that in a polite way... I would think that most people would know not to wear all white to a wedding, and if they don't, I really don't think that you're going to notice/care on the day.</p>

bridezillatobe2009

The ONLY time this would be acceptable is if you were having it at a golf/country club where there is an actual dress code (ie-no jeans and collared shirts). And even then word of mouth would be the acceptable way of passing this information out

therickson

I agree with the post above.... There is no way I would have posted anything at all but the venue required no denim. I still did not like it but I did it...

Most people will follow common etiquette... Those who don/'t? You won't even notice...

number55

I get that this is a huge faux pas but I still don't get why brides care so much about it. I doubt that anyone will be wearing a white dress that compares in ANY way to yours. Unless you are having a black tie affair with flipping evening gowns I don't see how anyone else's dress can end up looking like a wedding dress.

I was at a wedding two years ago where the bride's FSIL (also a reader) wore a white linen dress...my friend and I gave HER the side eye and the bride thought she was an AW for doing it but really, it wasn't the end of the world.  

banana468

You can't write this.  Sorry.

squirrly

There's really nothing you can write on your website to address that.  You could include something like this in an FAQ section:

* What should we wear?

The ceremony will be indoors and the reception outdoors, so be sure to check the temperature!  Typically, it is in the mid-80s this time of year in City, State, so colorful sundresses are comfortable and gorgeous for the ladies.  The club does request that the gentlemen wear a jacket and tie, and denim is not permitted.

Of course, if your venue doesn't have a dress code of any sort, you'd have to write that last sentence differently.

But, ultimately, most people know how to dress for a wedding, and if they don't, that's on them - not on you.  Nobody will judge the bride for it.  In fact, if someone shows up dressed inappropriately and you are unfazed, people will probably think MORE of you for taking it all in stride and not letting it affect you.

mysticl

On that section I basically put that we didn't have attire requests.  I mentioned the Groom will be in his dress blues.