Meal choices

mejane123

I'm clearly having a brain fart right now.  I'm trying to get ahead of the game and start printing invites nowish so I'm not messing with it when it comes time to send them out.  So, my question is, do I include vegetarian and children's meal options on the RSVPs?  Or, as far as kid's meals, should I just put that on the invites for people who have kids?  I feel like I should know this, but I can't picture any recent invites I've gotten.  I saw KellyS01's post about RSVP wording, which is what brought this question to mind.  

Thank you!  

specialk84

I would include vegetarian and children's meals.  It'll just make it easier on you.

As for just including the kid's meal option on invitations with children, my caterer said they would make a kid's meal for anyone who wanted one.  I'm pretty sure one of my BM will be eating chicken fingers instead of steak.

vicki0508

You could leave a space for people to indicate any special dietary restrictions, so anyone who has an allergy, or is vegetarian, or vegan, etc. can indicate it without having a separate vegetarian meal option listed on the RSVP.

sarah0725

I think you should include them. I'm planning on doing so.

jcamm11

My caterer asked me not to include a vegetarian or kids option on the response cards, and instead let the guests approach me if they have special dietary needs.  I chose to include them on the response card anyways.

mejane123

Thanks, ladies!  So my follow up question is, do I say "Vegetarian/Vegan meal" or just list what the meal is (it's a pasta dish)?

sarah0725

I would list what it actually is, and maybe put (Vegetarian) in parenthesis.

mejane123

That makes sense, I'll probably just do that.  Thanks, everyone!

HockeyFan4

I am doing as your cater suggested and not putting it on the card.  I am pretty sure there is only one vegetarian and the kids are in the WP and my neices and nephews...so i know it will be chicken fingers for them!

janicejab

  I'm putting the vegetarian option on the RSVP card because I have a lot of vegetarians attending.

alliesono

I included both vegetarian and kids' options on my reply card. For the vegetarian entree, I put "vegetarian pasta primavera." We've actually had quite a few people choose that who aren't vegetarians, as well. That's fine by me because it's a few dollars cheaper per plate anyway!

Also, we're inviting several kids who are around 10-12. I'm not sure whether they'd prefer the kids' option or an adult entree. I put the kids' meal as an option so they could decide for themselves.

Sarahkayfa

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_meal-choices?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:84535caf-2b6d-4365-9ad8-e72c97079428Post:8dbea3a4-3252-4f9b-81a1-7f4f0c1972d8">Re: Meal choices</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks, ladies!  So my follow up question is, do I say "Vegetarian/Vegan meal" or just list what the meal is (it's a pasta dish)?
Posted by mejane123[/QUOTE]

<div>Your Pasta dish could very well be vegetarian, and not vegan.</div>

leia1979

We are listing the three adult meal choices (chicken, fish, and pasta), so anyone can pick which of those three they prefer. We aren't listing the kid's meal, since we won't have that many children attending (I think just three).

I don't understand why you wouldn't list whatever your vegetarian option is. Let your guests choose. Some of them might assume they just can't eat if there's no veggie option listed.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

As a vegetarian, if there was only beef and chicken listed, I might get nervous and call the bride or groom and ask if they would be providing a vegetarian meal. It's just a lot of work and drama, especially if there's no way to indicate "special" meal choices. Besides, some people might pick the pasta dish who aren't vegetarian because they think it sounds good.

mejane123

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_meal-choices?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:84535caf-2b6d-4365-9ad8-e72c97079428Post:d1c22b60-ea7f-4a93-9fc1-72768be5a046">Re: Meal choices</a>:
[QUOTE]As a vegetarian, if there was only beef and chicken listed, I might get nervous and call the bride or groom and ask if they would be providing a vegetarian meal. It's just a lot of work and drama, especially if there's <strong>no way to indicate "special" meal choices</strong>. Besides, some people might pick the pasta dish who aren't vegetarian because they think it sounds good.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

<div>This is what I was worried about and why I thought it would make sense to just put it on there with the other two.  I only know of one total non-animal eater that's coming, but there are a few who only eat fish, and since we're not doing a fish, I guess it does make the most sense to just add it on.  Like I said, I just couldn't remember what had been listed on past invites I've gotten and wanted to make sure.  Thank you!</div>

tpender13

We only invited about 80 people, and our wedding wasn't super formal. On the handful of invites that were going to kids or vegetarians, we wrote a note saying that there would be a kid/veggie option and to write that in if that's what they preferred. That made it easier too for some of the kids that were at an age that we really didn't know if they would still want a kid's meal.

Oh, and SIL is a really picky eater, so she had chicken strips w/the kids and loved it.

regan117

We listed our vegetarian meal (stuffed portobello mushroom Wellington) and had several non-vegetarians choose it as their dinner. So I'd definitely include it...it gives people more variety, even if they aren't veggies.

mejane123

Yeah, you guys are defnitely right about other people picking that.  I forgot that I had talked to a few people when we were picking out meal choices and quite a few said they would choose the veggie choice (pasta primavera) over the chicken or steak.  

DramaGeek

As a vegetarian, I would not call the B&G and ask if there was a veggie meal.  If it was someone i was super close with I might mention it, but otherwise I would eat ahead of time and plan to not eat at the reception.  I'm glad you decided to put it on the response card.

NOLAbridealmost

ABSOLUTELY put the vegetarian meal on the response card.  I would be incredibly worried about making my vegetarian guests feel like they were a bother or were "putting me out" asking for a veg meal if it wasn't on the response card.