I called my FMIL to ask who was hosting my shower because the invitation didn't say and I wanted to get them hostess gifts. She told me the names of the 4 people but said not to do them, their family hasn't done hostess gifts before and it would make them feel bad.
Really? Who would feel bad because they got a small gift of appreciation? I'm kind bummed now because I already bought some stuff and had put thought into this. Should I give them anyway or scrap the whole thing?