This may or may not be the right place but the knotties on this board give good advice! Plus 1 question is etiquette related. Sorta. IDK if the formattings going to work on the knot boards and it won't let me change the font so bear with me please. Andplusalso I'm sorry in advance for how long this post is. Ya'll rock for reading it!
Question 1: Is the etiquette correct for the naming of everyone? Keep in mind my parents are divorced and remarried. Patricia is my "mother" Stuart is my "father" (names have been changed for internet safety reasons). Then I did grandparents in order of parents listed (i.e. Mom was first so her parents were first, then stepdads, then real fathers). So have I listed everyone in the right order? Am I supposed to use full names?...those that just have first and last names I'm still trying to find out their middle, lol it's horrible that I don't know my SIL's maiden name. Especially since I was in the same grade as her sister and we had several classes together. But I can't remember it! I'm a bad SIL.
Question 2: For the Loving Cup Ceremony, what's an eloquent way to explain we chose to do it instead of the Unity Candle because our ceremonys outdoors and we didn't wanna risk setting a forest fire or chance the wind blowing it out?
ETA: To fix the formatting cause the knot sucks when posting sometimes. And I purposely changed ppls names. LOL My BFF only wishes her last name was Freebird. I'm just not creative when it comes to names. The most creative was the Pitt/Jolie and the Chaplain as in Charlie Chaplain.
The Wedding Party Officiant
Jeremy Smith Friend of the Bride
Parents of the Bride Parents of the Groom Patricia and David Pitt Johnny M, Schmoe Sr.
Stuart and Karen Jolie
Grandparents of the Bride- Grandparents of the Groom Claude and Ruby Henandez Elizabeth Levirl DouglasClyde and Edith PittFaye Anne Jolie
Maid of Honor
Taylor Leigh Jolie Sister of the Bride
Best Man
Brandon Fletcher Scott Friend of the Groom
Bridesmaids
Nikki Hernadez Shelly Cousin of the BrideSerina Pitt Sister in Law of the Bride
Sarah Pauline Freebird Friend of the Bride
Groomsmen
Zachary Michael Chaplain Friend of the Groom
Tyler Douglas Deere Friend of the Groom
Charlie Cooke*** Friend of the Groom
Flower Girl
Savannah Peyton Shelly 2nd Cousin of the Bride
Ringbearer
Kiro Shi Hampton Puppy of the Groom
Bride’s Escort
Kaelas Graysfang Hampton Puppy of the Bride
(***Charlie was unable to attend due to a mandatory orientation for college. Congratulations on going back for your Masters in Biology Charlie. We Miss You.)
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Wedding Traditions
The Loving Cup Ceremony
This ceremony dates back to 15th century Scotland where people would toast each other with a ceremonial cup called a “Quaich.” We chose to use the Loving Cup Ceremony instead of the Unity Candle because it made more sense for outdoors. By sipping from the wine glasses we recognize each other as our anam cara or soul mate and signify the unifying of our families and our lives as one.
The Ring Ceremony
The exchanging of rings dates back to the Ancient Egyptians. The first wedding rings were made from reeds from the Nile which was the source of all life for the Egyptian people. They believed there was a vein “the vein of love” that ran from your 3rd finger on your left hand directly to your heart. That’s why we wear wedding rings on that finger today. A ring is a circle and like a circle has no beginning and no end. The ancient people recognized the circle as the symbol of eternity and that everything moves in a circular never-ending pattern. Day moves to Night then back to day; Life gives way to Death and is reborn again. The wedding ring is a reminder that your love like the circle has no beginning and no ending. Love lasts forever.
The Handfasting Ceremony
This ceremony dates back to ancient times when it could take months for a clergyman to make it back to the village so couples learned to make allowances. This ritual was usually performed by the village chieftain or elder and signified the betrothal period for the nobility or a common law marriage for the commoners. A Handfasting can last “for so long as love shall last” or for a year and a day. If you promised to remain handfasted for a year and a day you would then come back when the betrothal period was up and see if you wished to marry or decide to go your separate ways.