Inviting Kids

Ash07

Do you put kids names on invites?  If you are inviting them to the wedding or not?  A friend of mine told me her wedding planner said not to put small childrens names on the invites regardless if you want them to come or not, is this true?

kathrynhabibti

Hmm. I've never heard that one before. I'd still put them on the invite - otherwise, if parents know how these things go, they'll assume that LO is not invited.

chrissyjake

I would but "the Smith Family" on it.  That should cover the children as well.  You could also include on the RSVP card how many seats you have reserved for them.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

You need to address everyone you are inviting by name. So for parents and kids:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

Jane and Robert Smith

123 Main St.

Anytown, USA

Do you just have outer envelopes or is there an inner envelope? I think your friend is confused. If you have inner envelopes you leave the kids names off the OUTER envelope and put everyone's name on the inner envelope.

tenofcups4me

Ditto MsMery. (though personally I'd do Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith, but that's another discussion...)

aMrsin09

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[QUOTE]I would but "the Smith Family" on it.  That should cover the children as well.  You could also include on the RSVP card how many seats you have reserved for them.
Posted by chrissyjake[/QUOTE]


Don't do that.  The Smith Family includes everyoine who is residing in the house.  If the Smiths all of a sudden find themselves putting up the deadbeat BIL or an Aunt from out of town is visiting that week, "The Smith family" automatically invites those people as well.

ootmother2

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith (outer envelope)

Inner envelope

Mr. & Mrs. Smith

Jason, John & Susan (in age order)

banana468

Your friend's wedding planner needs an etiquette lesson.

tayylor65

I would do "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family"

banana468

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[QUOTE]I would do "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family"
Posted by tayylor65[/QUOTE]

You may, but that's not appropriate at all.  Anyone invited should be invited by name.

Writing 'and family' is a blanket invitation to Mr. and Mrs. John Smith to include anyone that they deem to be their family.