I’m getting married October 22nd, and although the invitations won’t go out for a few more months, I’m already angsting about a particular family situation. My cousin—we’ll call him J—is…well, he’s creepy. He’s always been creepy. And in the past year, he has gone from creepy but married, to creepy, divorced, unemployed, and living in his parents’ basement (he’s almost 44). Honestly, I’ve gone back and forth about whether or not I even want to invite him, but he’s family, and everyone else in the family is invited, so there’s really no good way to exclude him.
The problem is that he has a new girlfriend. I don’t think the ink on his divorce papers is even dry, and frankly, I’m not sure where he found a woman that would look at him and say ‘Ooh, what a catch.’ (He’s not even remotely attractive. I could sort of understand if he was a HOT loser.)
I have not met the new girlfriend, although it’s likely that I will between now and the wedding. She’s been attending functions with his immediate family, even when he is unable to do so. His sister and mother seem to think she’s great (although I can’t help thinking his mom is just hoping someone will take him off her hands and out of her basement). Still, I can’t help but think she MUST have a screw or two loose to be with him.
Truthfully, I don’t want to invite her. It makes me cringe to think of giving him a ‘+1’, especially since we’re eliminating most +1s for financial reasons. If they move in together, I know there’s really no way around it, but if they’re just dating, am I obligated to include her? There really wouldn’t be any question if it was a different cousin. But with him…ugh.
So what do I do?