I know who I want to marry us... i just dont know him personally. We haven't been going to church half as often as I'd like. So I've been going off and on to this one church by us and I know I want the pastor to marry us I just don't know him personally. Do I like start going every week and introduce myself before asking him... Also how early do I need to ask him? Do they require you to become a member or anything? And is it wrong to ask him to drive a few hours to perform the ceremony?