$18 dollar check

AmoroAgain

I didn't use to like them before, but cereal choices are pretty sad here so, I go with what I can get!!

jamiefour

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[QUOTE]I didn't use to like them before, but cereal choices are pretty sad here so, I go with what I can get!!
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]
This would make me sad.  I love cereal!

lharri12

Random: my grandmother sent me a check in the mail for $4 for Valentine's Day.  Sometimes she forgets it's not still 1950.

xoxpipahxox

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[QUOTE]Random: my grandmother sent me a check in the mail for $4 for Valentine's Day.  Sometimes she forgets it's not still 1950.
Posted by lharri12[/QUOTE]

You get money for Valentine's Day?

lharri12

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : You get money for Valentine's Day?
Posted by xoxpipahxox[/QUOTE]

Not usually, which is another reason why it was so weird....

cwcottage

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : Priorities, Amoro. Priorities. Weddings = more important that roof over head.
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

Not nice and totally uncalled for.

cwcottage

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[QUOTE]So... you're losing your home and having a wedding?  *scratches head*
Posted by AmoroAgain[/QUOTE]

Why would you even post this??? What ever happened to if you don't have anything nice to say keep your pie hole shut???

cwcottage

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : But her Knot profile says her wedding isn't until September 25th of 2010. So....
Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

You checked her profile? Wow lol

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : You checked her profile? Wow lol
Posted by cwcottage[/QUOTE]
What is your deal? It is common to check peoples profiles...

cwcottage

And yes she said she is married. I mean come on. If someone is in that horrible situation of possibly losing their home WHY would anyone make those comments?

Skippy don't mind those comments. I hope everything works out for you. I know how hard things can be. Been there.

nda_roxybabe

Pretty sure she took no offense to it and realized it was a misunderstanding. Over react much?

cwcottage

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : What is your deal? It is common to check peoples profiles...
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

Depends on the reason. Being nosey and then posting something about someone that has nothing to do with this topic is not good reason. Just like posting other people's past posts to embarrass and humiliate them for a good laugh isn't a good reason either. But some here are famous for that.

Sticking to the topic of the post would be a much better thing to do. Not personally attack people going through hard times.

Spell check?

mags0607

You learn something new everyday.

I would have just thought that the $18 was a really odd denomination to give as a gift. But, I really don't know anything about Jewish customs. Interesting.

cwcottage

Maybe she's just not as verbal as some of us. I hope you're right on this one.

cwcottage

I agree Mags. I think this is a very interesting thing to know. It is kind of humerous though to those of us that didn't know about the custom.

I personally think it was a sweet gesture especially considering they hadn't met the bride.

nda_roxybabe

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : Depends on the reason. Being nosey and then posting something about someone that has nothing to do with this topic is not good reason. Just like posting other people's past posts to embarrass and humiliate them for a good laugh isn't a good reason either. But some here are famous for that. Sticking to the topic of the post would be a much better thing to do. Not personally attack people going through hard times. Spell check?
Posted by cwcottage[/QUOTE]
You were complaining about how you were treated so I brought up the thread so people could see what you were talking about. It is a public, easy thing to find. No big deal, IMO.

parker624

Re Jenni Adams:  "To the OP its not the 18 dollars that's throwing me, i'm a completely random person so I like to give random amounts to throw people off but its the 'have a nice life' that i don't get. I mean they were probably meaning it in a nice way but it seems they could have worded it better"

In Judaismi 18 is the number associated with the letter "chai" which means life in english.  So when they wrote "have a nice life" it probably wasn't in a sarcastic way, but more like saying "here's a little something to start your life together."

There's a good chance that the couple sent the $18 as just a token and another present from them is in the mail.  I'd check with FI's parents to find out more about the couple before you dismiss them as rude.

cwcottage

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: $18 dollar check : Spell check?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]


LOL I need to be more detail oriented. At least I'm "intertaining".

Jenni.Adams

Re Parker624 that's an interesting tidbit of information to know I'm not jewish but I did take a religion class a couple of years ago but we never touched on that, i'll have to store that information as it may come in handy for the future so thank you I figured that it wasn't sarcastic and was meant in a 'i hope you guys start a great new life together' kind of way but due to my sarcastic/snippy personality whenever I see that it automatically has the ring of a snarky tone to it, which again is just how I percieve things. It's interesting how we can see the same thing but interpret it all different way ( I love watching people and how the respond to things which is why lurking here is so interesting)

OP I'd definately check with Fi's parents before making any judgements about them

smanukya

My fiance and I decided to wait and discuss this after the wedding with the parents.  Don't want to create any tension between them.  My mother-in-law would have mentioned if they were sending us something else.