FSIL ::rolls eyes:: I love her...

pirategal03

FSIL is a fashion model.  The thing that excites her regarding her brother and my wedding:  That our reception venue was originally built as a department store.

I don't expect her to be over the moon excited.  But really?

LVCK

I feel your pain. The only thing my own sister and MOH has gotten really excited about was cake. She WAS, afterall, the groom in her own (straight) wedding.

shigaites

The only thing that has excited my sister so far is we're getting kegs of beer from Big Boss Brewery for the reception lol.

pirategal03

I should probably also say that I'm an only child.  So this sibling relationship thing is new to me.  Maybe I'm totally off-base, but I would expect siblings to be happy for eachother when one is getting married.  I don't expect all excited and into it and trying to be a part of planning or whatever (especially since FSIL is currently living across the country), but idk. 

Besides my FI, FSIL and I have very little in common, so it's been...interesting, trying to figure this all out.  I do like her, but it's like she's from a different world.  I think I was just shocked at the amount of excitement she showed for the department store thing.  It was like "Oh great, it's close to the church, that'll be nice.  IT WAS A DEPARTMENT STORE?!? THAT"S AWESOME!  I CAN'T WAIT TO SEE IT!!!"... caught me off-guard. 

krispychikin

well - I am not going to lie.  I think that is also pretty awesome - but I'm a geek and love seeing how buildings are reused.  What/where is your venue?

Getting along with your significant other's siblings can be interesting - I come from a family of 5 kids so it was an adjustment for my DH!  I wouldn't be too offended that she's not super super excited - especially if she lives far away.  Eventually as you blend more into the family I'm sure you'll become closer!

LVCK

You've got a long time for her to get more excited. I really have felt that lots of people (including mentioned sister and my mother) weren't very excited. My half brother's wife has been the most excited from the beginning, but as the date gets closer, people are getting their butts in gear and helping with stuff. I'm sure your FSIL will get excited about some other things as more things get planned.

In my experience, while you feel like 8 months is right around the corner, people who are not involved think that's a looooong time. At least you get along with your FSIL. As time goes on and you officially join the family, I'm sure you'll find more in common.

Not sure you were looking for this much advice, but sounds like you wanted more than my original commiseration.

sundrop24

Hahahha, I think that is so funny!  I love how everyone (family) thoughts, ideas, and opinions are off the wall or just not what I expected.  It drove me crazy at first, but inside each time, I had to hide from laughing.  My FSIL just turned 17 and has no clue how the wedding is supposed to be, but how she suppose to know? She's only 17. Then my future cousin, who is a BM, is 20 and all she cared about is "are we going to be drinking?"  lol.  Doesn't care about the dress, shoes, whatever. Just alcohol. 

How old is your FSIL?  That is pretty cool how the building has changed, but funny how she said it too. 

katherineUTC

Yeah, I am not wild about my BIL/SIL either. BIL is my DH's *exact* opposite, he's just extremely dramatic, very attention wh0re-ish, annoying, crybaby... he acts like a 12 year old whenever we have large family gatherings, even his own wife admitted to me privately that he "reverts" when he's around his family. For some reason he was extremely jealous when we got engaged, he ran around telling EVERYONE that he "found out on Facebook" about the engagement. It was definitely an oversight, I thought DH had already told him when I put it on my status, so i did feel bad about that, but seriously he made it a POINT to over-dramatize it to everyone. We were at a wedding one time and we had several fellow guests come up to us to congratulate us on the engagement, and the first thing out of their mouth was, oh we just saw "John," he said he found out about the engagement on Facebook? I was really mad, so I went and found "John," pulled him aside, and told him to knock it off. He always has to make everything about HIM. And his wife is a little wacky. She is MY direct opposite, and while I think she is a lovely person, we will never be close because we are just SO different. I find her to be spacey, and just "out there." Plus she's always lecturing everyone about eating right, eating organic, this and that, yet she and DH's brother will go pig out on whatever just like anyone else. Ahhh ok, rant over. Cathy (sunnycathy) knows them, not through me, and she thinks the same thing, haha, we had quite the discussion at the last GTG.

pirategal03

@krispychikin our reception venue is www.twelvewestmain.com I think it's pretty awesome too.  It was built in 1916 as a department store and still has the original hardwoods.  They do that old hardwood creak noise when you walk on them thing that is so cool. 

@sundrop She's 23.

@Katherine FSIL and FI are pretty much opposites too.  Their entire family thinks that FSIL is "out there" but they know that's just how she is.  I can FOR SURE relate on the over-dramatization thing.  It's gotta be about them in some way.

Thanks for all the commiserating guys.  I think families are funny.  She drives me crazy some days, but usually I just roll with it and try my best not to be offended when she does/says weird things.  FI and his sister have always been pretty close, so having another girl in that relationship has been hard for her, and I understand that.  FI has done (imo) a really good job of trying to make things easier on her but still letting her know that things aren't going to be like they were when they were younger.  It's just going to take time.