is it OK..

jessbrooks1024

I am getting married next may and my niece is going to be flower girl but she will only be two, so I asked my aunt if my cousins would like to walk with my niece down the aisle. They will be 7 and 4 next year. My FI and I were talking about it tonight and thought we would have the older girls be flower girls they will each have a kissing ball to carry and make my niece ring bearer. I have two more cousins that are under six but they live out of state and another cousin who will be 13 at the time of the wedding. My wedding party is small and I was just going to have my niece but I think it will be help her to have someone to walk with. My concern is that there may be some jealousy that I asked two of my cousins and not the other three. On the other hand I think everyone will understand why I have asked both girls to help my niece down the aisle. I mean if included all of my little cousins I would have more flower girls and ring bearers then I would have bridesmaids and groomsmen. The girls are shy and may choose not to be in the wedding and if that is the case it would just be my niece walking by herself. I hope I have made the right choice!

LeiselEB

I don't think people will mind. It would be a bit much to have all of those children involved, and I think your relatives will understand that.

kmmssg

As a mom of 5 - life isn't fair, not every cousin or every niece/nephew fit in wedding parties. That is a very important tough little lesson children need to master early on.  NONE of our children were package deals and some got some wonderful experiences that the others didn't. You are fine in what you are doing.

nlindsay17

We had DD's two year old flower girl walk down the aisle with a bridesmaid. Just another option to think about.

tpender13

If you're afraid of there being drama amongst your family, it's okay not to have any flower girls or ring bearers.

jessbrooks1024

Thank you for the advice my aunt is thinking about it still. The girls are shy and sometimes do not like being in front of people they do not know. So even if one or both older girls change her mind at the last minute. I will just go with the flow. If my niece gets scared she will either head towards her parents or turn around and run into me and my dad. In which case I guess my dad will carry her down the aisle with us lol. The only relative that may say something about not asking all the cousins is the mother of my cousin who will be 13 at the time of my wedding. But I have thought about it and there is no place to put him. It would be over kill.

SunshineShades

You could do what I did as an option. I had my mum walk my 2 year neice (flowergirl) down the aisle. Just this Saturday actually! So instead of my mum being escorted by an usher she didnt even know, she got to walk with her grandaughter instead. AND it insured my neice would walk. Our backup was her dad would pick her up and carry her, and then escort my mum even though he wasnt an usher.

may25bride2012

As a PP said, if your family causes a fuss, they're the ones who look irrational. I do understand not wanting to cause a problem though. If it may cause problems, maybe give the other cousins some sort of role in the wedding like handing out programs (if you're using them) at the door before the ceremony? That way they feel involved. Good luck!

jessbrooks1024

I do not think there would be. If there is I probably can have the 13 year old usher or pass out something like suggested if my aunt makes a fuss that I did not including him. My other cousins I did not ask will not care and be happy to sit with their parents. Lol.