Bridal Shower

mattsgurl404

Can I invite Ladies to my shower, if they are not invited to the wedding? (For example, coworkers/ neighbors)

sucrets4

No.

beatlesgirl25

No.

nda_roxybabe

No.

beatlesgirl25

Haha, triple jinx!

nda_roxybabe

Beatles andd Sucrets

sucrets4

(Why is Ladies capitalized?  Are they super special?  Or maybe transvestites or drag queens?)

sarah0725

The only exception to the "no" is if someone throws you a shower at work, and if so then coworkers, and coworkers only, can be invited to that.

beatlesgirl25

The capital L is to distract them from the fact that they're not invited to the wedding. It's distinguished-looking.

tlv204

No.

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c57ede4-0c1a-41ec-9a96-d0de8a0ed8adPost:563f7ec0-a404-4fa6-ad81-b3aa5d104ec9">Re: Bridal Shower</a>:
[QUOTE]The only exception to the "no" is if someone throws you a shower at work, and if so then coworkers, and coworkers only, can be invited to that.
Posted by sarah0725[/QUOTE]

Yes, but presumably at work the bride wouldn't have any say in the guest list.  So she woudn't have to worry about it.

Same goes for church showers, so I've heard.  If people want to throw you a shower knowing that they're not invited, all the power to them.  But you can't add them to a guest list for any other shower.

ricksang

No because it looks like you want their gifts but not their company.

mags0607

You can technically do whatever you want, but it is very tacky to do this. I would make sure that whomever is throwing your shower sticks to etiquette here and only invites people to the shower who are being invited to the wedding.

The only exception that is usually made is if your coworkers throw one for you at work. If that's not what is happening, leave all uninvited wedding guests out of the pre-wedding festivities.

Edit: Sarah totally hijacked my thoughts, and beat me to it... : )

sucrets4

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bridal-shower-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c57ede4-0c1a-41ec-9a96-d0de8a0ed8adPost:ba71d83b-92b3-4cc7-9c96-091d52d8908f">Re: Bridal Shower</a>:
[QUOTE]The capital L is to distract them from the fact that they're not invited to the wedding. It's distinguished-looking.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Ah, yes.  Or to make them feel special so that they don't feel as dissed?

crfische

You can technically do whatever you want.

No, no you can't. Your hostesses maybe, but you cannot.

NcsuPsych

Why are you throwing your own shower anyways... Thats a 'No' in itself.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]Why are you throwing your own shower anyways... Thats a 'No' in itself.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]

She never said she was. Usually the bride hands the host a guest list. Otherwise, how would they know who to invite?

Galaxy8227

No, getting invited to the shower and not the wedding, is just a slap in the face saying we want your gift, but we don't want to have there on the actual day