**KentuckyKate**

Blueyed228

Did you get an angry PM from that crazy mom on CC?

I did.  She accused me of "Stirring the pot"

mica178

When did she send it to you?  I banned her for using other people's personal information on TK.  Did she create a new account?

Blueyed228

It says she sent it today at 6am.  But it also says that my reply from 10 min ago was sent today at 6am so I cant be sure.  But when I click on her name, her bio comes up.

Blueyed228

Mica- I just pm'd her bio link that comes up when I click on her.

mica178

Weird.  Maybe her account hasn't yet been deleted by TK gods.  All her original posts are gone, although I think they were reported long before I banned her.

Blueyed228

Yeah, like I said, the time stamps on them are weird so she may have PM'd me right after it happened, but I was able to reply to her.  Would I be able to do that if she was banned?

mica178

Hm.  I don't know.  The PM features on TK is primitive.  And there's nothing in my "mod docs" that explains this stuff.  It does say that if I ban a person, the ban is only for 3 days, then it's up to TK gods to delete the account or not.  Maybe it's been 3 days since I banned her.

Blueyed228

I dont know either.  She was pretty nasty to me.  She accused me of facebooking her son, stirring the pot, causing probelms etc.

I really feel like she has some emotional problems so I didnt get into it with her.  I just told her that I hope she seeks some professional help for her issues.

mica178

Yeesh.  I hope she gets help too.  I don't think either you or KyKate "stirred the pot."  That poster stirred it when she came on TK and used her son and DIL's real names and wedding date.  If TK gods ask about you two, I'll happily defend you both (although I already did by reporting that poster).

Blueyed228

TBH it sounds like that whole family is a little crazy.  With the mother of the bride coming on here etc.  She said the whole family is fighting over this.  Im not sure what she expected when she brought their personal information public.

She also used a lot of random capitalization in an attempt to make points.

I feel bad for her son and his wife.  That is a whole lot of crazy to deal with.

KentuckyKate

No angry PMs here!  Bummer

KentuckyKate

Oh I guess you got a PM because she thought YOU FB'd her son?  Okayyyy..... I put it out there on both E and CC that I did that.

Blueyed228

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kentuckykate-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c96c877-b789-4519-b686-31db6dd91f25Post:82f2518b-530a-4f85-b108-9513be4f1fd5">Re: **KentuckyKate**</a>:
[QUOTE]No angry PMs here!  Bummer :(
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

Im surprised.  She really must be crazy since you said in the post that you fbpm'd her son.

What a nutjob.

KentuckyKate

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kentuckykate-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c96c877-b789-4519-b686-31db6dd91f25Post:6c540a58-67fb-4b85-9641-a8165e0b3ba1">Re: **KentuckyKate**</a>:
[QUOTE]Yeesh.  I hope she gets help too.  I don't think either you or KyKate "stirred the pot."  <strong>That poster stirred it when she came on TK and used her son and DIL's real names and wedding date. </strong> If TK gods ask about you two, I'll happily defend you both (although I already did by reporting that poster).
Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]
Right.  What purpose did that serve?  I think she probably thought TK was a lot smaller and that we might know who they were.  She was trying to be vindictive by calling them out by name.  Her son had a right to know that information about them that was truly identifying was being posted on the internet.  I found their freaking address FFS.

NcsuPsych

Wanted to add, I too got an angry PM. Her new name is Crasher1

She's blamming TK for exposing the couple and still trashing them a bit in the PM.

Birdie1483

Mica, the 3 day info in the mod docs is outdated. I think it's from the old setup. I think now when they're banned, they're banned for good from posting. It's up to TK to delete their whole account though I think.

Kate, you will definitely have to fill me in later.

mica178

So she's banned from posting, but she's not banned from having the user account or PMing other people.  And now she has an AE.

I've reported the AE but cannot ban it unless it shows up on one of my boards.

KentuckyKate

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kentuckykate-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c96c877-b789-4519-b686-31db6dd91f25Post:0c74a968-c39e-404a-91bb-c60abd2108c1">Re: **KentuckyKate**</a>:
[QUOTE]TBH it sounds like that whole family is a little crazy.  <strong>With the mother of the bride coming on here etc. </strong> She said the whole family is fighting over this.  Im not sure what she expected when she brought their personal information public. She also used a lot of random capitalization in an attempt to make points. I feel bad for her son and his wife.  That is a whole lot of crazy to deal with.
Posted by Blueyed228[/QUOTE]
Wait a second... What?  Where?

NcsuPsych

Mica,

She replied to the main thread today.
http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-inviting-mother-of-groom

HTH.

KentuckyKate

OMG I GOT A PM!!!!  My first angry PM!!!!

KentuckyKate

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kentuckykate-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c96c877-b789-4519-b686-31db6dd91f25Post:46531eee-29f3-474e-96a5-272486dc19d1">Re: **KentuckyKate**</a>:
[QUOTE]Mica, She replied to the main thread today. <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-inviting-mother-of-groom" rel='nofollow'>http://forums.theknot.com/default.aspx?path=http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-inviting-mother-of-groom</a> HTH.
Posted by NcsuPsych[/QUOTE]
OMG the irony and stupidity.

NcsuPsych

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_kentuckykate-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8c96c877-b789-4519-b686-31db6dd91f25Post:fe27e434-f076-405a-98c0-f7ddfc1016ef">Re: **KentuckyKate**</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: **KentuckyKate** : OMG the irony and stupidity.
Posted by KentuckyKate[/QUOTE]

Yeah, my thoughts exactly.

KentuckyKate

I'm going to post my PM, because she told me to.

WHO DOES NOT have issues. THat is NOT a valid reason to exclude a Mother. THanks for turning me into my son on Facebook.  That really helped for the future if we could ever fix this mess.   The reason i wasnt invited is because the ex's girlfreind did not want me there and my ex. He is a COACH and he coached all of them. all of my kids. my Mother,, my brother,m his wife, his kids. THAT is what he does BEST !  PLEASE POST THIS .

KentuckyKate

She obviously takes no responsibility for whatever caused a rift in her family.  Her kids are adults.  It seems unllikely their dad could be "coaching" them to hate their innocent mother.

ETA: And this woman's own mother and siblings.  Wtf.

mica178

KyKate, I guess she's lurking and realized that the angry PM should have gone to you rather than to Blue.  Was the PM from crasher or funnygirl?

KentuckyKate

From Crasher1 at 2:04, so yeah, she probably is lurking.

Crasher1, there are countless posts suggesting you seek help.  Not one person thinks you are in the right here or that your behavior is normal or justified.  If you want to fix things with your son, accept some responsibilty and find someone to talk to.  Your grown children and your own mother have not all been brainwashed to turn against you by your XH and his GF.

I am going to drop this now, for your son and DIL's sake.

NcsuPsych

Unfortunately, I doubt she'll ever see it that she's the one that's needing help.

Part of the angry PM

"btw I am a Paraprofessional Mental HEalth WOrker by profession"

it also said something to the tune of us needing to get off the boards and go the the gym to hang out or something. I'm thinking we're not the ones that need to get off the board.

I really hope this family can be able to pull it together at some point.

marinabreeze

I'm late to this but I read both threads and I read them to FI.  This lady has major issues.  I can see in an abusive situation if the dad coached the kids, because that can happen.  BUT...HER mom and siblings too?  That makes me think that she must be the problem. 

It's sad that she still doesn't get her own culpability in all this, and why her family would support the son's decision to leave her out of the wedding.  Even on the threads on TK, she displays just how far gone she is, out in the open, no one to "coach" us.  We can all see it, and we're not her family, and we don't have a personal stake in the situation. 

And even after she posted her son and wife's personal info on FB, and personally attacked other posters, she still passes the buck and doesn't take responsibility for her own actions. Blame KK for letting her son know that his personal info is floating around the 'net thanks to dear ol' "Mother," blame the son's dad and his girlfriend for turning the family against her, nothing about how her own behavior caused any of this drama and mess.  She wants to be respected like a mom, but is approaching this entire situation like a defiant child.  It's a sad situation and I feel sad for the family.

CRASHER1

 you people have been on this site way too long...as evidenced by the post , Neuro Psych. I am so bored , I am bored with television even.   I wrote a very nice PM to Neuro Psuch even though she wrote so many negative things about me and she sees only negative.  That is a sign that it is time to go to domething productive other than analyze this drama.    Everyone got into this drama more than a soap opera , but sorry to say ,,,non of it was true......it was all fantasy!