RD Question

lizzywiz

I'm trying to nail down my rehearsal dinner guest list so we can decide on a venue.  One of our family friends is singing at our wedding so we definitely want to invite her to the rehearsal/dinner.  Her entire family (husband + 4 kids) is invited to the wedding, so does that mean all  of them need to be invited to the rehearsal/dinner as well?  We are also having about 6 other musicians sing/play at our wedding.  Should they also be invited to the rehearsal dinner?   

ericaandtom2012

The husband of your friend needs to be invited, but not necessarily the children.  Are your other musicians vendors?  If so, no need to invite them; if they are friends, I probably would. 

lizzywiz

The other musicians are members of the church (which I've been involved in for 15 years) so they all know me pretty well, but I wouldn't necessarily call them friends.  They are being paid to play/sing and aren't invited to the wedding reception. I just didn't know if it would be a nice gesture to invite them to the rehearsal dinner as a thank you or if paying them is thank you enough.  And I agree that my friend's husband would definitely be invited, I was mostly wondering about the kids.

Meegles4

Based on your clarification, I'd say you don't have to invite the other musicians. I also agree with PP that your friend's kids don't HAVE to be invited. However, if you have room in the RD budget and the kids are young (i.e. not able to watch themselves), it might be nice to extend an invitation just so your friend doesn't have to find a babysitter or leave her husband at home even though he's invited.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]Based on your clarification, I'd say you don't have to invite the other musicians. I also agree with PP that your friend's kids don't HAVE to be invited. However, if you have room in the RD budget and the kids are young (i.e. not able to watch themselves), it might be nice to extend an invitation just so your friend doesn't have to find a babysitter or leave her husband at home even though he's invited.
Posted by Meegles4[/QUOTE]

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ceceibson

I sing in weddings fairly often.  I'm alway invited to the rehearsal dinner, along with my FI.  When the wedding is for friends, they usually invite my children but I rarely take them.  I appreciate the gesture, but I figure it's a nice night out for FI and I and our friends don't need the added expense and chaos of entertaining my children.