Bridal Shower...or not

lisamleap

Im having a private destination wedding and have no intention (or desire) on having a bridal shower BUT I hear through the grapevine my FMIL may be planning a shower.  I know she will only invite women on the guest list for our brunch celebration but I feel its a bit tacky to have a shower...any thoughts???

myname1234

Tell her no thank you.

AdeleDazeem

I had a destination wedding (12 people invited) followed by an AHR (125 people). 

I wasn't comfortable having a shower with people only invited to the AHR so my mom threw me a shower with four people (all on the destination wedding list).

I would politely decline any shower that includes those only on the brunch list.

dubird

If it's supposed to be a surprise, there's not a lot you can do about it.  Yes, you can polietly decline, but how will that impact your FMIL, espically if she's already sent out invites?  If you can bring it up casually in conversation that you don't want a shower, that's probally your best bet.  However, iIf you show up at her house some day and there's a surprise shower for you, really the best you can do is be gracious that she cares about you and wants to help the two of you get started (even if you don't need it) and just go with it.

rebarobert2012

If you are not comfortable having a shower, you can decline one if it is offered.  I wouldn't worry too much about it until she actually offers to host it, though.