I'm asking because a couple of friends of mine got invited to a wedding in the middle of May recently but didn't receive a STD beforehand. They both felt B-listed, even though they were clearly invited with plenty of notice. My parents and some of their friends, however, feel that STDs are rude because they find them AWish. I don't really have an opinion either way, but I'm curious what others think. FI and I are trying to decide whether or not to do them, and we're erring on the side of "no." After hearing those recent vents from my friends, however, we're reconsidering.
Thoughts?