Obnoxious

callalilly323

A 24 year old colleague of mine is moving into a new apartment and is throwing herself a housewarming. I think that's great, and would typically bring a gift -- except that she has registered herself and included the registry information on her housewarming invite. And we're not talking bottles of wine, we're talking Kitchenaid mixers. It really bothers me for some reason! I will gladly bring her something but... am I off base?

Morfudd

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[QUOTE]A 24 year old colleague of mine is moving into a new apartment and is throwing herself a housewarming. I think that's great, and would typically bring a gift -- except that she has registered herself and included the registry information on her housewarming invite. And we're not talking bottles of wine, we're talking Kitchenaid mixers. <strong>It really bothers me for some reason! </strong>I will gladly bring her something but... am I off base?
Posted by callalilly323[/QUOTE]

As it should.

andy71781

Um yeah that's annoying.  I wonder where she came up with that idea.

CLSchramm

A house warming is supposed to be a party where you show your friends your new house. IMO it's not a party where a gift is even expected; it's more like a 'welcome to the neighborhood". She's just being plain cheap and selfish. I wouldn't go.

tidetravel

Who registers for a housewarming party?

I'd bring her a bottle of wine.  I may or may not also arrange to spill it on her floor.

Morfudd

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[QUOTE]Who registers for a housewarming party? I'd bring her a bottle of wine.  I may or may not also arrange to spill it on her floor.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

One of the stores where I am registered for the wedding now has housewarming registries. Oh, and birthday registries. If I didn't love the everyday china there so very much, I'd have picked up and moved our registry due to a vague and pompous sense of etiquette justice.

Apparently, I can be bought with cerulean blue stoneware.

callalilly323

THANK YOU!! UGH I just needed to vent lol.

lingersoll

I'm sure she got the idea from the store.  When we went to BBB to register it was a couple months after we bought a condo and the month before my B-day.  The saleswoman tried to get me to start three registrys at the same time: B-day, wedding and housewarming.  I obviously laughed at her and said no but she made it sound like everyone did it.

Simply Fated

Birthday registry? lolwut?

Housewarming registry is bad enough, but a birthday registry? really?

mags0607

I had a very dear friend do the whole housewarming gift registry thng. I just rolled my eyes, told her she was crazy, and then helped her scan her items.

She ended uo with about 75 things on her registry and gosh darn, she got most of the crap she picked out.

She is in a very "You are getting married, and I had to by a house by myself, and therefore will never get married" phase, so I just went along with it.

At least she had the sense not to put the registry info on her invitation. But, I told her she was nuts, and would still think anyone else who did this was equally as ridiculous.

lisarose7

I actually saw something like this in an advice column.  It boiled down to, "I didn't register for stuff for my wedding because I lived in a small apartment when I got married.  Well now we bought a house and I need stuff.  Can I throw myself a shower now so people will buy me the things I need because I can't plan for the future?" 

The answer: "No.  Dear God, NO!"

Apparently not everyone got the message.

Simply Fated

In an episode of Sex and the City, Carrie goes to a baby shower where the gifts registered are pricey. While at the party, she loses her shoes and her friend refuses to pay her back the full amount, which was something, like, $400. So Carrie, who was so frustrated with all these functions and expensive gift registries, starts a gift registry for herself. She sends an invitation to her friend, saying that she is marrying herself... The friend goes to the store and only gift on the registry are the shoes, lol.

This thread reminded me of that episode. Sorry if it was off-topic, I just wanted to share.

noelwellin

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[QUOTE]Who registers for a housewarming party? I'd bring her a bottle of wine.  I may or may not also arrange to spill it on her floor.
Posted by tidetravel[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>This.  And I'd make sure it looked like it was her fault. </div>

LauraT25

A girl with the same name as me has a birthday registry at one of the places we registered for the wedding, so I see it whenever I search for our registry and roll my eyes.  A few of my guests have mentioned it to me as well, they all think it's ridiculous.

callalilly323

Some of the PPs -- thats EXACTLY what she said -- she's getting this apartment alone and I'm registered for a shower, so why not? What's the difference? She ALSO referenced the S&TC episode, actually, so it's not off topic!

squirrly

First of all, I'd never throw myself a party and call it a housewarming.  I hate that.  I'd just throw a party at my new house and invite my friends.  If they brought something, I'd probably actually be embarassed. 

That said, I might do a registry for myself so that I could get the discount when you fulfill it at the end.  But, I'd probably misspell my name on it so that people wouldn't find it.  The bottom line is, I'd be the only one buying from the registry.

jonchrissy

My uncle and girlfriend did this when they moved into an apartment together last summer. They said it would make it easier for people to pick out Christmas presents for them. My grandmother (his mother) was pretty appalled, she buys everything people want anyway and didn't understand why he couldn't just email her the link presents they wanted (she also only shops online).
Their housewarming registry was through crate and barrel.