Annoying things my husband does vent thread....

waltzingmatilda13

I'm with you Anna on the praise thing. It's such a big deal when H does something, even though I do it all the time.

I'm tired of having to ask to get things done. I do all the laundry every week also. But I have to ask if he will get up to check on the clothes in the dryer or move them from the washer to the dryer. It's such a simple thing to do, but it would keep me from having to get up every 45 minutes if he would just pitch in. But he also always takes the trash outside and cleans the bathrooms (which is the worst chore, IMO), so I can't complain about that.

Knottie1457761448

FI waits until the absolute last possible second to do anything.  For example, we had to go to ten different stores on Saturday so we could get his GMs gifts.  Even though I had reminded him every single week that he had to buy them still, he chose not to, and then we had to run around like idiots so he could find something for them.  Then, he complained that he had spent more than he had wanted to.  

Well, if you were organized for just, five minutes, you would have found something sooner and may have been able to get it in your desired price range.  Dummy.

mandysmear

yeah me either.  my main concern is the liter.  we are so not about gender roles.  but we make jokes.  and so we call the liter and taking the bins out on suzuki day "blue jobs".  and things like cleaning the bathroom "pink jobs".  got it from my girlfriend and her husband.  so funny. 

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]I. The sock colony growing under our bed.  He takes his socks off when getting in bed, but will leave them under the bed for weeks.  It's like they're breeding under there. 
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

<div>I swear DH's little black socks are multiplying.  Seriously they are EVERYWHERE.  Just when I think they are all back in the drawer another one appears out of no where. </div>

emilyinchile

Mandy, what is the liter?

Moneypenny424

I'm also tired of asking him to do things. 

We each do our own laundry.  He will do my laundry, but for whatever reason, he finds it weird to mix all of our clothes together.  Does he think my clothes are covered in toxic sludge or something??  So weird.

Moneypenny424

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoying things my husband does vent thread.... : I swear DH's little black socks are multiplying.  Seriously they are EVERYWHERE.  Just when I think they are all back in the drawer another one appears out of no where. 
Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

Ha ha!  Same here.  He'll say to me "I need to buy some new socks," and I'll have to remind him that they are all living under the bed!

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[QUOTE]I'm also tired of asking him to do things.  We each do our own laundry.  He will do my laundry, but for whatever reason, he finds it weird to mix all of our clothes together.  Does he think my clothes are covered in toxic sludge or something??  So weird.
Posted by Moneypenny424[/QUOTE]

My husband's clothes are so nasty (sludge and goo and God only knows what else) when he comes home I cannot wash his work clothes with my clothes. But I will wash his church or everyday clothes with mine.

annakb8

Overall I can't complain much, he really does help out plenty. But it isn't unusual for him to offer to do a load of laundry and then fill it up 90% with his stuff. And he will vacuum, which I really hate doing. The only problem is that we don't own a vacuum so it only happens if I borrow one from a friend. And he will never do the really nitty gritty stuff like scrubbing down the bathroom or kitchen. But he also doesn't complain if it maybe takes a bit longer than it should for me to get around to it.

slwager

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[QUOTE]My H is really forgetful.  He'll start doing the dishes, then when the sink is full of water, he'll step away from the sink to "let it drain", and then forget what he was doing in the first place.  He does that with a lot of projects -- gets sidetracked concentrating on something else, and forgets what he was doing to begin with.  But his doctor thinks he has adult ADD, so I guess I can't really get upset about it.
Posted by baystateapple[/QUOTE]

this makes me laugh because i legitimately have ADD but illegitimately use it to explain why i did half the dishes or forgot to put stuff away.  needless to say the FI is suspicious :)

opalsky007

I hear ya on the "waiting til the last minute to do anything". 

Happens all the time, but the worst was a few weeks ago when he tagged along with me when I presented at a conference. As I was getting my bags to the door so we could get to the airport, he was dawdling around and I said, "Okay, we really need to leave now. Did you remember to pack this?" Turns out he hadn't packed a damn thing. Two hours before an international flight. WHODOESTHAT.

Pirata13

Sometimes when he does dishes, he'll stick the dirty dishes in the dishpan without rinsing them. So then the dishwater gets all nasty and I dump it out and put new in. Like, seriously babe, are you going to wash glasses in there now? Ick.

jemmini6

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[QUOTE]Putting dirty dishes in/around the sink instead of taking the 2 extra seconds to rinse it off and put it into the dishwasher. DRIVES ME CRAZY.
Posted by musicalsunlight[/QUOTE]

THIS!!!  He can watch (and even help) me unload the dishwasher, then he'll have a glass of milk and set the dirty cup on the counter by the sink.  Just put it in the dishwasher!!!

scottswife1106

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[QUOTE]I'm with you Anna on the praise thing. It's such a big deal when H does something, even though I do it all the time.Posted by waltzingmatilda13[/QUOTE]

THIS.

Yesterday, I was not feeling well at all. H went to the store and bought dinner, came home, threw some burgers on the grill and fixed the sides. After dinner was over, I asked him if he had put the food away and if he told my son to do the dishes. He just stood and looked at me like he didn't know what I was talking about. I raised my eyebrows like" Did you hear me?" He was acting as if he had done his share and I was asking too much. Beat it!

mandysmear

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[QUOTE]Mandy, what is the liter?
Posted by emilyinchile[/QUOTE]

shitty liter.  for the cats.

emilyinchile

Ahhhh. I get it. I could not for the life of me figure out what 1000 mL of liquid had to do with anything.

missy68

Remember the little girl in Signs? The one who couldn't finish a glass of water and there were cups all around the house with a couple of inches of water in them?

Yeah, that's H.

Annoying as hell, when I am loading the dishwasher, and I have to go gather them up. I asked him the other day why on earth he needed 6 glasses a day, since all but one had water in them. His answer?

"They have amoebas in them." Just like that little girl said. Yeah, I laughed. He'd been waiting to use that.

tunaep11

he leaves every single cabinet in the house open. I can get the man to do all the laundry with no problem, clean up his messes in the rest of the house, he will even do dishes on occasion. But he can not seem to remember how to close the damn cabinets. IDK how many times I have been doing things in the kitchen (which is very small) and turned around and smacked my head on a frickin cabinet door!

NuggetBrain

I'll be getting ready in the morning or changing or whatever, and he'll come up behind me and grab my stomach from behind me and jiggle it around.  And he KNOWS I am incredibly self-concious of my stomach.  He says he thinks it's cute.  I don't.

andy71781

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[QUOTE]I'll be getting ready in the morning or changing or whatever, and he'll come up behind me and grab my stomach from behind me and jiggle it around.  And he KNOWS I am incredibly self-concious of my stomach.  He says he thinks it's cute.  I don't.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Mine does that too!!!  And TBH he has much more to jiggle than I do.

My pet peeve is how my H always has to share my food/drink.  I typically will get a glass of water before bed.  He will come over to my side of the bed and drink (standing up) the entire glass and then set the empty glass down.  one time he carried the empty glass into the kitchen and put it in the dishwasher. I almost lost it.

NuggetBrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoying things my husband does vent thread.... : Mine does that too!!!  And TBH he has much more to jiggle than I do. <strong>My pet peeve is how my H always has to share my food/drink.</strong>  I typically will get a glass of water before bed.  He will come over to my side of the bed and drink (standing up) the entire glass and then set the empty glass down.  one time he carried the empty glass into the kitchen and put it in the dishwasher. I almost lost it.
Posted by andy71781[/QUOTE]

I swear to god I'm part bear because this time a million.  Everytime I make something to eat or drink he wants to try some.  IT'S MY GODDAMN POPCORN.  GO GET YOUR OWN.  I hate sharing.

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoying things my husband does vent thread.... : I swear to god I'm part bear because this time a million.  Everytime I make something to eat or drink he wants to try some.  IT'S MY GODDAMN POPCORN.  GO GET YOUR OWN.  I hate sharing.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

I feel the same way about H.  The funny thing is he doesn't share.  Every time food is placed in front of him, he's like a starving dog, so it's gone before I've even started eating.  Then he looks to my plate to see if he wants to attack it (usually he does, even though often there's extra food in the kitchen).  Honestly, if I didn't know his mother, I'd swear he was raised by wolves.

andy71781

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Annoying things my husband does vent thread.... : I swear to god I'm part bear because this time a million.  Everytime I make something to eat or drink he wants to try some.  IT'S MY GODDAMN POPCORN.  GO GET YOUR OWN.  I hate sharing.
Posted by NuggetBrain[/QUOTE]

Is your H an only child?  Are you a middle child?

tpender13

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[QUOTE]he leaves every single cabinet in the house open. I can get the man to do all the laundry with no problem, clean up his messes in the rest of the house, he will even do dishes on occasion. But he can not seem to remember how to close the damn cabinets. IDK how many times I have been doing things in the kitchen (which is very small) and turned around and smacked my head on a frickin cabinet door!
Posted by tunaep11[/QUOTE]

This! Drives. Me. Nuts!

The other day, H was making a bagel. He put peanut butter on the first half, licked the knife, then put it in the cream cheese for the other half. Ewwww!!! I asked him why he couldn't just use a clean effing knife, and he just shrugged. It's not like we have a shortage of them. This morning, I went to use the cream cheese, and yup... peanut butter smeared inside. I got so extremely pissed off, it's a good thing he wasn't awake yet.

lyndausvi

Last week I bought a pack of 12 mini-cupcakes for the house.  I didn't have any before I went to work.  While at work I got a text saying "ummm baby, I left you A cupcake"

Yep, that's my boy's definition of sharing.

LeslieMPC

I have a super-power. My super-power is the ability to find FIs lost shiit. Everytime.
The man manages to forget where he put something down 5 mins ago. I was once on vacation (that he couldn't get off of work for) and he called me at six in the freaking morning because he had been looking for his wallet for 30 mins and could not find it. I was half asleep, 1000 miles away and managed to locate it on the second guess/suggestion.

He leaves the cabinets and drawers open, leaves food out on the counter after making him something to eat and likes to "air dry" after a shower. Which does not bother me, because hey, nakey FI walking around for me to oogle. But when you fart bare-assed on my sofa, I have to draw the line somewhere. 

My personal favorite though, is when he gets mad when he asks if he has any socks or underwear clean and the answer is no. Dude, I don't wear your underwear or socks, how am I supposed to know that they are all dirty?

Our dryer seems to run on socks because we have a pile of socks that are missing thier mate. I don't get it.

nzchick88

My partner is lazy with a capitial L. For the summer (we are just heading into autumn now) he was unemployed and I worked 60 hours per week AND he expected me to do all the cooking and cleaning too, while he sat on his butt and did sweet F-A. It took me screaming at him and leaving (for the night to my BFF's place) for him to realise that if he wasn't working he needed to pay his way, which was going to be through keeping the house nice. He got better after that but he would let the dishes "soak" for days on end, or get lazy and put a dirty dish in the oven so the kitchen looked tidy.

He is learning and getting better. I blame his mother. Lovely woman but he was the youngest and sick, and they had a maid so he never learned how to take care of himself or any responsibility.

luvdncn90

My BF gets all pissy when I ask him to have a bite of his food when we go out to eat but without fail always ends up eating whatever is left on my plate. Regardless of whether I wanted it for later or not.

Drives me crazy.

meganyani

My H never picks up after himself. It drives me mad. He leaves 3 pairs of shoes outside of the kitchen. Or if he got an important paper (w-2 form), he leaves it at his place on the dining table for months. When he starts a project, he leaves out wrappers and all the pieces for it everywhere. GAHHHH STOP. Once I got fed up and let his Dunkin Donuts styrofoam cup sit on the counter. For Two Freaking Weeks. It was 6 inches from the trash can but he didn't notice/care.

I will never understand.

Unfortunately his kid also has this habit. Her room is constantly strewn with random things on the floor, her boots are left at the bottom of the stairs, 3 different puzzles laying around, etc.

Serenity now.

mrsjustinm2b

FI thinks it's fine to hit the alarm SEVEN TIMES, on the one morning I get to sleep in. Because then we can "cuddle"  WTF! Reset the alarm for later instead of having to jump out of bed every five freaking minutes because the snooze is going off. Better yet...get up and get OUT!