Bridal Party & Tattoos

Riesh

Some of my bridesmaids have several tattoos all over. The dress are halter, should I have them, cover up the tattoos or it doesn't matter.

temerityjane

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[QUOTE]Some of my bridesmaids have several tattoos all over. The dress are halter, should I have them, cover up the tattoos or it doesn't matter.
Posted by Riesh[/QUOTE]

Doesn't matter.

tlv204

It doesn't matter. They may not want to anyway. If they want to they can.

Nebb

OH MY GOD!! not tattoos!!!

mandysmear

I think that tattoos are part of who they are and to ask them to cover them up is extremely controlling. 

AmoroAgain

The devil will eat you if you let your tatt'd up bridesmaids carry on in such a manner.  COVER!!  Or ye shall be smited!

stinkerbell6879

Nope, don't ask them to cover them. BUT....If you are getting married in a church they may have to wear a shawl or something anyways, depending on the church.That would be the only reason I would even think of bringing it up.

katieanne85

there has been other posts on bridemaids tattoos lately, which makes me wonder, if having the "proper" asthetic was more important to people than just plain affection for there friends why are they bridesmaids in the first place?

Moneypenny424

It doesn't matter.  If they choose to cover up, that is their choice. 

ggmae

I'd never ask a WP member to cover up their tattoos, but I wouldn't be offended or anything if someone were to ask me to cover mine. I understand that people have different feelings about tattoos, so if my best friend were to ask me to cover up my foot tattoo for her wedding, I would do it.

krmabojo

Does not matter.

having ink myself, I would be incredibly offended if one of my best friends asked me to stand up with her, but cover my ink for the fact of she is embarrassed by it or may not think it will look good in pictures.

The ONLY way they need to be covered is these is a tat that is offensive or if the church does not allow it.

louloudi87

I'm not covering mine, I'm not asking them to cover theirs. 

xoxob

Do they have the word "F*CK" tattooed across their forehead?

...then, I wouldn't worry.

beatlesgirl25

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[QUOTE]Do they have the word "F*CK" tattooed across their forehead? ...then, I wouldn't worry.
Posted by xoxob[/QUOTE]

*snort*

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]I think that tattoos are part of who they are and to ask them to cover them up is extremely controlling. 
Posted by mandysmear[/QUOTE]

I agree.

banana468

Nope - can't ask them to cover up the tattoos.

rjtutter

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[QUOTE]Nope, don't ask them to cover them. BUT....If you are getting married in a church they may have to wear a shawl or something anyways, depending on the church.That would be the only reason I would even think of bringing it up.
Posted by stinkerbell6879[/QUOTE]

I agree with this.  If you're getting married in a church they may need to cover their shoulders (and possibly tattoos) with a shawl.  BUT, when taking pictures they shouldn't have to cover their tattoos because I assume you'd ditch the shawls.

brit_bell90

I'll probably have my tattoo covered up for the ceremony, but I'll probably uncover it after, I know my fiance and I need a picture of our tattoos together since they match (mines on my left wrist, his is on his right) so I'll probably get a picture of them with the bouquet or something like that.

mizri

I would never ask friends to cover tattoos for my wedding.  Before MOH dropped out, she was the only WP member to have tattoos that would be visible.  Now that she dropped out, it's not an issue at all, but I will have MY tattoo showing on my back.  I don't even think church would be an issue, I was in a Catholic wedding a few years ago and the bride started to say something, because the church would look down on it, but then she stopped and told me that she chose me for ME, not how I look, and if anyone at the church was offended, damn them.  I would have looked horrible with the tattoo cover-up kits because I'm extremely freckled.  

But you DON'T get to tell BMs to cover part of who they are.  Those tattoos were added to their bodies for a reason, and you are asking them to hide part of who they are for your "pretty princess day" (I love that term!).  

sarabellam

Bah, don't listen to these girls. My BM's were FORBIDDEN to get tattoos. Forbidden, I tell you. Oh, wait. The older one was still 8 years too young to legally get a tattoo in this state (as well as being 6 years too young to drive). But that is immaterial. They were FORBIDDEN from getting tattoos.

mwhitson14

I'm not gonna lie, I totally hated all the tattoos one BM had covering her back, arms, and feet. They're not great quality tattoos; she basically let's her friend that's a new artist practice on her. But I never would have dreamed of asking her to cover them, and we got married in a church. They're not offensive, I just don't like them

ricksang

Unless the tats are seriously offensive (naked women/men) I say no. Makeup cover tats look even worse.

duckie1905

I've been asked a few times to cover up my tattoos.  The only time I was okay with it was a result of a church rule (that required our shoulders to be covered anyway).

My tats are part of who I am.  They aren't offensive and they are well done.  Being asked to cover them up is insulting and tells me that the bride cares more about looks than for my feelings and our friendship.

megs983

I wouldn't ask them to. I have tattoos which will be exposed during the wedding. The majority of my friends & family have ink, to ask them to cover up feels rude to me.

robinmichael

lol @amoro. Smite you mighty smiter!!!!!

RaneeB

I think that if you think it is an offensive or obscene tattoo you have every right to as them to cover it up. Everyone in my wedding party but 1 person has tattoos so I am defiantly not opposed to tattoos. If the tattoo looks good (not faded or blurred) and is not the bridesmaids boyfriends name, I would leave it alone. It is your day, if you choose to have them covered just ask politely and don't make it a demand.

leayn

i have 15 tattoos and am covering mine for our wedding, but i bought a dress that covers them because i refuse to wear that make up (it never works anyway).  i am not asking anyone in our wedding party to cover anything of theirs, but if you have to have them covered up you should pick have picked their dress accordingly.  this way you are not offending anyone by asking them to cover something they obviosuly love enough to have imprinted on their body forever.  i personally would not mind covering mine for a friend, but everyone is different and some people could be really upset about this request.

lopezk

if you had a problem with tattoos in the first place, why ask them to be in your wedding? i can't imagine that your guests are going to be sitting there focusing on your BM's tattoos while youre exchanging vows with your FH. GET OVER IT. 

pooh8402

doesn't matter, nor should it. 3 out of my 5 bridesmaids have tattoos, as does my mom, and I'm not asking them to cover them. why? because I love them as they are. I also have tattoos, and I'm only covering the one on my shoulder because FI asked me to.

colorguarden

My MOH is the only one of my BP that has tatoos, and actually was the one who took me to get mine.  I do plan on asking her to cover up the one on her back, but not any of the others.  This is only 'cause it's a huge piece and the dress styles I like will only show the very top of it, and in my opinion, I want her to show all of it or none of it and the dresses I like don't allow you to see all of it.  Any other tats in plain sight can be visible.

MyNameIsNot

You cannot ask them to cover their tats without looking like a horrible bridezilla.  

If they don't like the way they look in their dresses, they'll do it themselves.