Ushers at head table?

willywally5

OK, I know the WP and their SOs sit at the head table; do the ushers and their SOs too? Or is it acceptabel if they have a table for them and their dates right up by the parents'/immediate family tables? (There are four and all but one are bringing their SO or a date) Trying to avoid a gargantuan head table. 

midgetthemighty

I've never seen ushers at the head table. I think you'd be fine to include them in closer tables like family or just put them with other people they know like every other guest.

LeiselEB

We sat ushers with their families or SOs, not at the head table.

willywally5

OK. Cool. Just wanted to be sure it was not a huge faux pas or something. Thanks!

AllAboutTheBenjamin

Just jumping in - Ben and I were ushers at a wedding last summer and we were seated at the head table

I don't think you have to, but it might be fun to do it, if that's what you want.  I liked sitting there.

Summer2011Bride

All the weddings I've been to had the ushers at the head table if they had ushers. I don't think it's "wrong" to seat them at a separate table if you don't have the room, but if you did, it might be nice to have them and their SOs sit with everyone else in the wedding party.

willywally5

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_ushers-at-head-table?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:92b52d83-00e5-4f01-90ed-234af61065ecPost:bdf864be-8a84-4ce5-9e0f-30db1a06eec4">Re: Ushers at head table?</a>:
[QUOTE]All the weddings I've been to had the ushers at the head table if they had ushers. I don't think it's "wrong" to seat them at a separate table if you don't have the room, but if you did, it might be nice to have them and their SOs sit with everyone else in the wedding party.
Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

<div>I think it would be crowded, but do-able. Not sure they really care, they will have been together all freakin' day. Maybe DD/FI should just ask them what they prefer? But then if some want to and some don't ... gah. </div>

Summer2011Bride

I think asking them would be a good idea if you do have the room. I guess in my circle, the ushers usually ride in the limo (if they have one for the WP) and attend all the pictures at the different locations and get introduced and walk in with the rest of the WP. So I wouldn't want to offend them by including them in all of that and then making them sit separate from us, KWIM? But I do understand that in other circles, the ushers just strictly participate in the ceremony and that's it. The rest of the evening they are mixed in with the guests. So it really just depends.

willywally5

Yeah. They are going in the limo and also for pictures. I don't know; none of them are really the type to get their briefs in a bind about much of anything. 

I am ready to get this show on the road, have a great time and have it be over! Is that bad? 

Summer2011Bride

Haha no not at all! When I got married, I was ready to just have it be that day already and have everything sorted out and what not.