Any Southern brides?

cooper0314

polichik

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http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_tennessee

KentuckyKate

In my circle, boxed gifts or gift cards to the store they're registered are more common than cash, but that doesn't mean that cash is not a welcomed gift.  A card box is fine.  I've seen a card box or a birdcage at every reception I've ever been to.

janedoe1113a

Definitely have a card box because people do bring cards.  A lot of them don't have gifts though.

We certainly got a lot more boxed gifts than we did cash.  And I have never once given a cash gift at a wedding.

Are your guests from up north or from the South?

I would get the B&G of the wedding you're going to something off their registry in a price amount you can afford. 

squirrly

Boxed gifts are more common, but it's not inappropriate to give cash. 

As for your registry. . . I'd put some stuff on it, and just watch it.  Be prepared to add a few things later on, perhaps.  However, don't register for things you don't really want, because the people who gave them will want to see them in your house.

Aunt Mildred:  "Oh, sweetie, don't use that bowl!  Where's the bread basket and special warming towel we gave you at the wedding?  Let me show you how to use it."

Yeah.  Register for enough to avoid off-registry weirdness, but not so much you end up with stuff you didn't really care about.

sarabellam

Cash is NEVER unwelcomed, no matter the geographic region.

picoult81

I'm from the South, and never once gave cash as a gift.  At our wedding, only one person did.  We created a registry with a very wide price range, from $10 towels to the $300 Kitchen Aid.  We got gifts from both ends of the spectrum.

I think your best bet for gift giving is to purchase something off their registry, that way you know they will like it!

goheels05

While less common perhaps, cash gifts are perfectly acceptable, as are card boxes.

If you'd like to give the bride and groom cash, I'm sure they would be grateful.  It's not a faux pas, it's just less common.  I'm in NC, and while we did receive cards with checks, physical gifts were by far more the norm. 

As for your registry, it's a personal choice, and it probably depends on your crowd.  I could be wrong, but I believe BecW didn't register, so she might have better advice.  If our register had been small, we would have got more vases and picture frames than we already did. 

I got scared when you asked if there were any Southern brides.  Last time someone said that, she wanted us to back her up in saying that peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are a delicacy.

squirrly

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[QUOTE]While less common perhaps, cash gifts are perfectly acceptable, as are card boxes. If you'd like to give the bride and groom cash, I'm sure they would be grateful.  It's not a faux pas, it's just less common.  I'm in NC, and while we did receive cards with checks, physical gifts were by far more the norm.  As for your registry, it's a personal choice, and it probably depends on your crowd.  I could be wrong, but I believe BecW didn't register, so she might have better advice.  If our register had been small, we would have got more vases and picture frames than we already did.  I got scared when you asked if there were any Southern brides.  Last time someone said that, <strong>she wanted us to back her up in saying that peanut butter and jelly sandwiches are a delicacy.</strong>
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]

I had forgotten about that one.  Who was it, do you remember? 

Personally, I'm still pissy about the NYC girl having the DW in RI, who told her mom they wouldn't have trouble getting a nice DJ and all, because "It's not like it's Kentucky!"  I hope I never meet that one in person.  I don't want to go to prison.

BecW2be

I registered, but not for much. My MIL begged me to, so I did. I also had a card box, and I got more cards than boxed gifts. I think every wedding is different depending on the guest list, but you'll be fine if you want to use a card box and/or a registry. And your couple will appreciate either at the wedding you're attending in the south. GL!

cooper0314

Thanks ladies!

Most of our guest will be from Nashville. There will be very few from the Northeast. We already have a home and everything needed to furnish it so it may be hard adding more stuff to the registry we already did create for a few odds and ends BUT i'm sure he wouldn't mind adding a few power tools As for the wedding we are attending, i'll just stick with their registry!  Thanks!

iamjoesgurl

Squirrly - http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_southern-ladies?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:8dba2ec6-a51d-4d72-9bf6-dd94e904dc53Post:d12a963b-0439-4aae-a119-94b7ef9b885b

And I remember that NYC bride and something about how her guests should be able to afford the hotel that SHE expected them to stay at.  Piece of work that one was.

goheels05

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Any Southern brides? : I had forgotten about that one.  Who was it, do you remember?  Personally, I'm still pissy about the NYC girl having the DW in RI, who told her mom they wouldn't have trouble getting a nice DJ and all, because "It's not like it's Kentucky!"  I hope I never meet that one in person.  I don't want to go to prison.
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

I don't remember, but I don't think she ever came back after the fallout.

That NYC girl was wretched. 

MissMandey

So...wait....card boxes are okay? I grew up with people thinking they were presumptious and rude?

I mean, I never cared...but now I'm just curious.

squirrly

Oooh, nice.  Thanks!  Yeah. . . She was a twatwaffle for sure, to borrow a Bec-ism.

goheels05

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[QUOTE]So...wait....card boxes are okay? I grew up with people thinking they were presumptious and rude? I mean, I never cared...but now I'm just curious.
Posted by MissMandey[/QUOTE]

I think the south has finally caught up with the rest of the world and is ok with card boxes.  They are more acceptable as long as they are cute.

I seem to remember card boxes being somewhat controversial on the boards a few years ago when I joined, so I think this is a recent revelation. 

squirrly

They're fine here.  Now, many of the cards that go in them don't have a check inside - just well wishes, because the card bearer brought a boxed gift with a small tag bearing their name.  So long as the card box is vessel to hold cards and not a demand for cash, I've not seen it frowned upon.

One thing to be aware of, though - people tend to bring boxed gifts TO the wedding in the south, not ship them before/after like they do in the north if they don't give cash.  They want the gift table to be overflowing.  So, make plans to transport the gifts somewhere that night.

sarabellam

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[QUOTE]Thanks ladies! Most of our guest will be from Nashville. There will be very few from the Northeast. We already have a home and everything needed to furnish it so it may be hard adding more stuff to the registry we already did create for a few odds and ends BUT i'm sure he wouldn't mind adding a few power tools :) Posted by cooper0314[/QUOTE]

You can ALWAYS go for upgrades. And I buck the trend, because my absolute favorite (relatively) recent purchase was my water-cooled tile saw. Yep, I'm a guy with tits.

danieliza1127

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[QUOTE]Cash is NEVER unwelcomed, no matter the geographic region.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

I agree.  It might be more common to do boxed gifts, but cash is always welcome I think.  If you feel weird about it, do a gift card instead so you don't have to travel with a big gift.

picoult81

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[QUOTE] We already have a home and everything needed to furnish it so it may be hard adding more stuff to the registry we already did create for a few odds and ends BUT i'm sure he wouldn't mind adding a few power tools :)
Posted by cooper0314[/QUOTE]


We were registered at Sears and that was all my DH wanted!  We already had our house and everything that went with it too, but there were plenty of things that we wanted but would never actually buy ourselves.  We registered for a digital picture frame, some really nice photo frames and upgraded kitchen gadgets since most of his were old and all mine were Dollar store to Walmart quality.

ashstwrt

I'm from NC and lived here my whole life.  I know lots of older couples that give cash, but lots of people do give gifts.  So....definitely register! And like someone else said, add more to the registry if people start buying things! People like options! And I'm having a card box, and know of other NC girls who have, too.