subtitle: How my mom made me feel like crap last night.
So my parents have been divorced since I was 10. They had joint custody, even though my mom's house was my primary residence. We saw my dad at least once per week. I have a stepmom and stepdad, who have both been involved in my life.
My mom called the other day and asked who I wanted to give the welcome at the reception, her or my stepdad. I was caught a bit off guard. And I think in the back of my mind I knew that my mom wanted my stepdad to do it. I thought that this seemed like it would be my mom and stepdad taking credit for the whole reception saying "Look at how awesome we are to throw this party for our daughter" and that my dad would sit there looking like a nobody. So I thought that it might be nice to then ask my dad to do the invocation.
Well I talked to my mom last night and told her that I had asked my dad to do the invocation. She was really upset and said that she had planned on doing it and now she felt like a "second class citizen" at the reception that she's paying half of. (Note, I'm paying the other half and my dad contributed a little bit). She then said that she felt like the ceremony was my dad's (since he is walking me down the aisle) and the reception was hers. I told this to my MOH and she commented "Isn't the ceremony about you and Matt!?!".
Anyway, my mom is really upset, and I truly didn't know what she meant. When she said the welcome, I thought she meant a big speech like "Welcome. We are so excited that you are here and happy to be celebrating with Anne and Matt, blah, blah, blah." Now my mom kind of wants me to take back the invocation from my dad. I really don't feel comfortable with that. My mom said that she's not mad at me, but she's obviously upset and it truly was a misunderstanding.
Anyone else have divorced parents and run into issues like this? I kind of feel like crap now and the cold and the fact that the dog had tummy issues all last night really didn't make me feel better. ARGH!