What does everyone think of a tattooed bride?

Gustafson28

So I'm scheduled to get a tattoo on my upper back that will definitely be visible during the wedding. This made we wonder what you all think about a tattooed bride. The design is very personal to me and my family but what would you think as someone who may not know the details? Just curious

mcda04

I personally don't care if the Bride has tattoos or not. If it's her personality then I don't frown upon it one bit.

It kills me when i watch My Fair Wedding and David covers these girls tattoos. it's nobody's business. odds are, your family love you for who you are and the tat wouldn't matter to them.

StephBeanWed61502

I think "oh hey, she has a tattoo." I am not sure what you are looking for here. I mean, will some people side eye you for having a giant back tattoo? Sure. But my guess is you already know who in your family and friends feels that way (if anyone), and you obviously don't agree with them, or you wouldn't be getting the tattoo. Getting a tattoo is a personal decision about how you want to present yourself to the world, jut like deciding to dye your hair, or pierce your ears or nose, or wear blue eye shadow (although a tattoo is obviously more permanent). If this tattoo is important to you, go for it, and don't worry about what other people think. Or, if what other people think matters that much to you, skip the tattoo. Whichever. Just don't expect there to be a "get a back tattoo that somehow magically doesn't offend Aunt Gertrude who hates visible tattoos" option, because there isn't such a thing.

EK2013

I don't care if the bride has tattoos or not, or whether she shows them or doesn't.

The one thing I might find odd would be a "headless" tattoo--where the important part of the design is covered by the dress, but something odd and identifiable is sticking out (like, say, a dog rump, with the head of the dog under the dress).

Peledreamsofrain

I think you shouldn't worry about what other people think so much. Do what makes you happy. I have a huge set of wings on my back, from shoulder to butt. I made no effort to hide the tops. If someone didn't like it, too bad for them.

SmallenForever

It's your body and your wedding, do what you want. There will certainly be people who will judge your tattoo, but in the end, if you're a fan of tattoos, this shouldn't matter to you. 

Gustafson28

Thanks for the imput. I'm getting it either way and not covering up. Like I said, I was just curious to see how other people thought. I was actually watching a show where the bride had her tattoo covered up which got me thinking..kind of like David in those shows

jenajjthr

I got a nautical star tattoo over my heart about 3 weeks before my wedding.  My mom was "OMG that's gonna show, how are you going to cover it up? You can't show that, what will people think!"  It was meaningful to me and my FI and I was fine with it showing, being in the pics for all eternity, etc.  I told my mom that and she backed off, but I knew she wasn't thrilled.  I didn't hear anything from the guests. 

If it is what you want then don't care what others might think.  Just be prepared for the ones like my mom, and the ones like me "Oh I love your tattoo, who did it, why did you get it, it's beautiful!"

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I personally don't care if the Bride has tattoos or not. If it's her personality then I don't frown upon it one bit. It kills me when i watch My Fair Wedding and David covers these girls tattoos. it's nobody's business. odds are, your family love you for who you are and the tat wouldn't matter to them.
Posted by mcda04[/QUOTE]
A lot of things he does bothers me. He breaches etiquette left and right, which is honestly why I'm not always surprised when brides come on here with some of those same ideas. They're probably either getting those ideas from him or feeling validated because of him.
As it is he got OP thinking about covering up her future tattoo.

I don't think anything of it when I see a bride with a tattoo. I mean, no more or less than I'd usually think about it if she wasn't in a wedding dress.

Gustafson28

I never thought of covering it Simply Fated. I was just wondering what others think. I'm going to rock it and get lots of pics of it to show forever. Again, appreciate the input!

achiduck

The only time it would bother me is if the tattoo is extremely vulgar (ie. an orgy scene, rascist slurs, etc).

MoonlightSilver

I'd just think "I wish I could get my tattoo." 

RamonaFlowers

If the tattoo is meaningful/tasteful/well done, it doesn't bother me, regardless of where it's positioned.

But I admit to totally being a judgmental beyotch if a visible tattoo is poorly done/misspelled/is flat out grotesque(Like a satanic clown having sex with a naked Tinkerbell or something).

That's not a "bride" thing for me, that's how I feel about tattoos in general. I know, I should be more accepting of people's rights to do whatever they want to their bodies ... but yeah, I totally judge visible grotesque/lewd tattoos.

So, what I'm saying is, a meaningful/well done tattoo in a wedding dress won't faze me.

lauralaur

I would notice it but no more so than I would notice anyone with a visible tattoo. If you want it do it.

KellyBrian2013

Rock that tattoo girlfriend... that's how I feel about brides with visible tats. I have a bird on my back that was visible for our wedding.

MrsGandthebeag

I have 3 tats, so I'm not against them, but I'm not for them being all visible.  I think it's a personal thing.  I like to know mine are there, but I don't want to show them to the world.  I wouldn't want tats showing when I'm in a wedding dress.  It's just not my style.  

Simply Fated

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[QUOTE]I never thought of covering it Simply Fated. I was just wondering what others think. I'm going to rock it and get lots of pics of it to show forever. Again, appreciate the input!
Posted by Gustafson28[/QUOTE]
Good, don't cover it up!
I think it's silly to cover a tattoo up. It's a part of you... it's like someone asking you to change your hair color or something.
When I was MOH people hinted to me about what I was planning to do about my glasses and how I should consider contacts. My glasses are a part of me. I'm not changing the way I see for anyone. :(

I don't see the big deal about tattoos unless the venue requests for them to be covered up or if it's offensive. And even then offensive is so subjective, ya know?

cwaggoner07

I am personally not a fan of tattoos at all, bride or not. I know I'm in the minority. My H was tattoo-free when we met and got one when we had been together a few years. I told him, I don't like it, I don't technically condone it, but you're paying for it, it's your body, and I'll go support you when you get it. And I did go, we made a fun afternoon of it, and I've never said a word about it since (mostly because I forget about it and it doesn't affect me).

However, you obviously want one, and it's a part of who you are. I don't think anything or anyone's opinion should affect your decision. Like PP said, just be prepared in case you think a family member may not approve.

cwaggoner07

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What does everyone think of a tattooed bride? : Good, don't cover it up! I think it's silly to cover a tattoo up. It's a part of you... it's like someone asking you to change your hair color or something.<strong> When I was MOH people hinted to me about what I was planning to do about my glasses </strong>and how I should consider contacts. My glasses are a part of me. I'm not changing the way I see for anyone. :( I don't see the big deal about tattoos unless the venue requests for them to be covered up or if it's offensive. And even then offensive is so subjective, ya know?
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>People actually said that???</div><div>
</div><div>Funny, because my sister that wears glasses always looks ADORABLE, and she took them off being in our brother's wedding, and my wedding. I asked her why and she said she just gets paranoid about the glare in pictures but I still thought it was super weird. And no one has ever said anything to her about it. She wears them all the time.

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Simply Fated

@cwaggoner07 - Yup and it was super awkward for me. I've never worn contacts before and it didn't occur to me that my glasses would actually concern anyone.


@snippet17 - I really do wonder if the roles were reversed and his tattoos were going to somehow show, would he jump at covering them up?

random4180

No tattoos here but I do have nineteen ear piercings and I was asked what i was going to "do with" my ears by several people while planning the wedding. I switched out my captive bead rings and plain studs for a TON of shiny studs and changed my corkscrew industrial for one with a rhinestone accent. I pretty much blinged the crap out of my ears because while I get that the hoops looked a bit more tribal, there was no way I was gonna NOT have a ton of earrings- I'd feel weird without them! I don't think anyone who knew me was the least bit surprised that I still had all the hardware in my ears because I've had most of them for years. I don't think anything more about a bride with a tattoo or piercings than I do with any other person with body modification. Some I like, some is not quite my cup of tea, but to each their own, you know? I really feel like a person should look like themselves on their wedding day, which is why I loved that my H didn't shave off his facial hair or lose his glasses just because we were getting married. 

anssett

I'm planning my dress shape to show off my large shoulder tattoo. It's part of me and beautiful!

coopsbaby

As long as they aren't offensive or really poorly done then I love them, I think tattooed brides look really neat! Of course, I'll have one tattoo that shows completely and two that show partially so I'm a bit biased. I don't know why people would want you to be someone else on your wedding day! Of course, when I got married the first time I wore my glasses and people about had the vapors!

Lisa50

What would I think?  Not much, either way.  Honestly, I wouldn't care.

What would someone you care about think?  Now, that seems to be what you really want to know.  If your aunt/cousin/former bff (fill in the blank) sees that new tatoo, what will she think?  You already know ... or you wouldn't have asked.

I think it does not matter what anyone thinks of a new or old or any tatoo.  If it is something you're comfortable with, go for it!

CA.Giraffe

I have no issue as long as the tattoos themselves aren't offensive. I made sure my dress let all of my tattoo show I don't like it to be cut off, even though it's just a shamrock and wouldn't be headless.

Loopyseven

I think a tattoo is a personal part of you and you should show off as much or as little as you are comfortable with and anyone else who has an opinion about it can just hush up.

Kristin789

>> used to like David Tuttera, but when first heard him say about covering tattoos it bothered me. He has tattoos so I don't know why he thinks that have to be covered.

If all the people coming to the wedding have tattoos, then it won't matter of course.
But David T does weddings where the audience will be people of all ages, and if more than say 20% of your audience will be people who have no tattoos and do not know much about tattoos, then those people would fixate on the bride's tats, and would not fixate on the real foundation and reason for the wedidng.

The focus of the wedding should NOT be what kind of tattoos are on the bride's back or arms.  If the tattoos are would draw that much attention from that many people, then David T covers up the tats.

GardenMaven

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What does everyone think of a tattooed bride? : Good, don't cover it up! I think it's silly to cover a tattoo up. It's a part of you... it's like someone asking you to change your hair color or something. When I was MOH people hinted to me about what I was planning to do about my glasses and how I should consider contacts. My glasses are a part of me. I'm not changing the way I see for anyone. :( I don't see the big deal about tattoos unless the venue requests for them to be covered up or if it's offensive. And even then offensive is so subjective, ya know?
Posted by Simply Fated[/QUOTE]

<div>I have worn glasses since I was 8 years old and am practically blind without them.  I have tried  contacts in the past, but my eyes are very sensitive and I literally blinked them out.  Having seen so many photos of brides without glasses on, I mentioned something about it when I was trying on dresses.  The woman at the store that was helping me said, "I have seen other brides with glasses.  And remember, your fiance fell in love with you in glasses!"  It made me feel better, and it's so true.</div><div>
</div><div>OP- I have no tattoos, have never dyed my hair, don't wear makeup, and have no piercings, but I have no problem with people who do.  (Wow I sound boring.  Lol)  I have seen some really awesome and beautiful tattoos, and I wouldn't side-eye a bride with one.</div>

Gustafson28

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[QUOTE] />> used to like David Tuttera, but when first heard him say about covering tattoos it bothered me. He has tattoos so I don't know why he thinks that have to be covered. If all the people coming to the wedding have tattoos, then it won't matter of course. But David T does weddings where the audience will be people of all ages, and if more than say 20% of your audience will be people who have no tattoos and do not know much about tattoos, then those people would fixate on the bride's tats, and would not fixate on the real foundation and reason for the wedidng. The focus of the wedding should NOT be what kind of tattoos are on the bride's back or arms.  If the tattoos are would draw that much attention from that many people, then David T covers up the tats.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]




Lol stage I was going to say something similar. I can think of 2 people (out of 80) who have tats.... They can be jealous of my (hopefully) beautiful piece lol.

Annas2013

It's your body, you decorate it however you wish.  I think tattoos are beautiful, even though I don't have any.  If I was a guest, I'd probably just admire the tattoo/dress/whole shebang.  There's no reason for anyone to judge a tattoo, unless it's innapropriate/rude.  

dtbluv

I don't really like tattoos that can't be covered up during professional times, like ones that will show no matter what work outfit you put together.  But, I love tattoos overall, and love seeing tattoos that have special meaning to the person that has it.  And a wedding is a personal time, so show it off!