Inviting Grandmother *sigh*

HisMegs878

OK so my dad died when I was 9 and I really have not had a relationship with my Grandmother since then. I try and try but honestly it makes me uncomfortable to be around her (I have no idea). When I do go and visit her I am counting down the minutes to be able to leave. When I imagine my wedding honestly I do not picture her there. However, she has never done anything to me and alwyas love seeing me when she does see me. I do wish I had a better relationship with her but I just do not know how.

So I am finishing my guest list and the one name left to be entered is my Grandma's name. I am very hesitant to add her name because I don't really want her there but then again I do. Should I just invite her or not? I have asked other people and they say just invite who you want there, or don't invite people you don't want there. 

I want to do the right thing and I know she wont be around much longer.

M

Katshia

I would invite her still. Even if your not close, maybe you can be now. She may not even show up, but you should at least invite her. Be glad you have a grandparent alive and see if this can rekindle your relationship

september's bride

Invite your grandmother. I would have given up anything and everything to have either of my grandmothers alive to be there; including the one I had zero relationship with.

mvance87

I understand your situation...my Dad's mother and I have never been close.  I suppose the difference is that she never wanted to have a relationship with me and frankly, hasn't been a very nice person to the rest of the family.  Anyway...I sympathize with your feelings.

If I were in your shoes, I would go ahead and send her an invitation.  If you're not that close, she may not come anyway.  If she does, odds are you won't have to spend too much time with her since you'll be busy greeting all the other guests you have.  On top of which, you have all of the wedding business to attend to (cake cutting, first dance, etc.) so you won't have much time left over for one-on-one time with her.

All that being said...another thing to consider is this:  would you rather look back and MAYBE remember a few uncomfortable moments talking to her, or look back and regret that you didn't invite her.  In my opinion, the former is much easier to live with.