Inviting out of town guests to the shower?

cutistudi

Hey do I invite out of town guests to my bridal shower?  I know many can't make it but I also don't want to exclude them.

nda_roxybabe

Hey!

No

Simply Fated

HOw OOT are they? I mean, can you be sure they won't come in for the day or weekend to see you?

danieliza1127

I didn't invite any out of state guests to my shower.  I just didn't want them to feel obligated to send a gift knowing they wouldn't fly in just for a shower.  I did invite some that lived within a few hours away, especially close family members that should be invited.

nhelene

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[QUOTE]Hey do I invite out of town guests to my bridal shower?  I know many can't make it but I also don't want to exclude them.
Posted by cutistudi[/QUOTE]

I'm only inviting the out of state guests that I think have a ghost of a chance of actually being able to make it to my town over a weekend.  So far, that's one person.

I don't think any of your guests will be offended; they'll understand why they weren't invited.

danieliza1127

Now if you're talking about your Mom or sisters, or your FI's Mom or sisters, then yes they should be invited even if they're out of town.  Bridesmaids also.

jnic0319

I didn't invite any out of state guests and I think the furthest away guest was 1.5 hours.

KatyRoseM

I'm not inviting out of town guests, including BM's.  It probably depends on your relationship with the guests in question, if you know they would want to be invited or that they wouldn't, go with it.  Otherwise I just didn't feel like inviting them to give me a gift for an event I knew they couldn't attend.

polichik

I think it's ok to invite out-of-state guests who could travel relatively easily. I also invited all of my bridesmaids to both showers, but I spoke with each of them to let them know I certainly didn't expect them to travel. Three of them decided to fly in!

Knittibell

I would... but not every woman on your list. If there are some poeple who are OOT and you're really close to them, definitely send an invite. I'd personally be hurt if a good friend didn't invite me because she *thought* I wouldn't come. So for any ladies you're close to, I say send an invite- regardless of how far away they are. My first wedding (I"m widowed), I sent one to my then FI's sister- in the UK! I knew she couldn't come, and did not expect her to, but wanted to be sure she knew she was important to me and felt included. IMO the shower is less about gifts and more about sharing the excitement of the upcoming day with your closest lady friends.

Meagan78

I only invited OOT family members.