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EmilyMcLemore

My future MIL and FIL will not be attending our wedding due to her terminal illness.  They are also in a very tight financial situation, but keep asking me how they can help with the wedding. 

I want them to feel included in the planning as well as part of the wedding day, but don't have any idea how to do that due to her illness and their financial situation.  HELP!!

vettechgirl

You can involve them in simple things like, "Can I have your input on these two invitations. I can't decide which one I like", or "What do you think of Roses for the wedding verses Lilacs?" Involving them in the conversation will help them feel included. It may also prompt them to say, "Here, we can give you $50 for that," or something to that effect. If you are still concerned about their finanical situation, make it known by saying, "Are you sure? I know you guys are in a tight spot right now, and I don't want to take away from that." But, if they are offering, chances are they know thier limits and can give you that amount to help.