Separate Registries?

ajroark

So, my BM who is planning my shower asked where I was registering for the shower so she could circulate that information to the guests. I said BBB and she responded with “but that’s your wedding registry, what about your shower registry?” I told her I thought that they were the same thing, and she said usually the bride receives things only she would like rather than couple/home gifts at the shower. She mentioned she’s gone to about three showers within the past few years and the bride receives things like lotion, lingerie, scrapbook supplies, make-up, etc rather than traditional home gifts. Who is right? Am I supposed to have a separate “girly” shower registry from my wedding registry at BBB? I’ve never been to a bridal shower before so I have no idea how this works!

Beachy730

I have never seen that happen, but I think it depends on the type of shower.  In my hometown the registry is really just for the shower since most people give monetary gifts at the wedding.  

Some people have a lingerie shower specifically.  But just tell her you want to just use your wedding registry.  

midgetthemighty

If BBB is what you want for your shower, BBB is what she puts on the invites as to where you are registered. If a lot of stuff is gone off of the registry after the shower, you can always add more stuff so that people have more options for wedding gifts.

kcscejal

Ditto beach.  I just had my shower last Saturday and everyone bought gifts off of my BBB registry.

hlq2011

I think showers like that are more of a regional thing.  For my showers, they are all gifts off our BBB, Pottery Barn and Williams-Sonoma registries.  Though my grandmother gave me some pajamas.

tenofcups4me

The gifts at showers I attend are almost always house things. I've only once attended a "lingerie shower," and the invitation specified that's what it was. Besides that and the occasional nightgown at a regular shower, I've never seen gifts that were just for the bride.

MattsPenguin

Typically showers are for wedding presents.  Heck down in Tennessee, we only received gifts off of our registry at the shower and will not be receiving additional wedding gifts.

The only other type of shower is a lingerie shower.  And all you do for that is supply your sizes.  I had one, but that is because they are traditional in my mom's family.  Many people on here are not comfortable with them, which is understandable.

Just tell her that you want to use your BBB for your shower.  Besides, is fiance really all that excited to get new china or flatware?

graysquirrel

I've never heard of the bride making a separate registry for personal things. The original purpose of a shower was to help the bride set up her home and unless otherwise specified, they have mostly followed that tradition. If you want the items you registered for, I would just tell her to pass along the BBB info. People can always buy you lingerie or scrapbooking stuff instead of they so desire. 

Bubbalub

I've never heard of a separate shower registry. Around here shower gifts are either off the wedding registry or personal gifts like pretty lingerie or family heirlooms.

peanutty2

Agree with PPs.  I've heard of (but not been to or know anyone who's had) a lingerie shower and it's specified as such.  Otherwise, a regular shower is your household stuff that you register for.  Occasionally someone will slip some lingerie in there too of course, but that's not the whole point of it.  I'd just tell her your just doing the BBB registry.

LoveMuffins

I've never heard of a separate shower registry either - although one of my BMs thought she couldn't buy her brother a shower present off his wedding registry cuz that was only for wedding presents and was freaking out about what to get him.

People just have some weird ideas about what registries are for... unless you want that other stuff, just tell her to use the regular registry.

AbbeyS2011

Never heard of that either.  Hand her the BBB cards they printed out for you to put in the invites (I was told at the store to put them in with the Wedding invites) and call it a day. 

On a BBB note, I have to stop going on there and adding cool stuff to my registry - now I really, really, really, want the cool picnic cooler basket thingy LOL. 

ajroark

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_separate-registries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9a86e2df-211b-416d-b898-8f32c99c413aPost:8e28dce2-aa6e-417a-9752-780cfb955bd9">Re: Separate Registries?</a>:
[QUOTE]Never heard of that either.  Hand her the BBB cards they printed out for you to put in the invites (I was told at the store to put them in with the Wedding invites) and call it a day.  On a BBB note, I have to stop going on there and adding cool stuff to my registry - now I really, really, really, want the cool picnic cooler basket thingy LOL. 
Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

I just registered for that a couple of days ago! I want it SO bad! lol

mandi921vh

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[QUOTE]I've never heard of a separate shower registry. Around here shower gifts are either off the wedding registry or personal gifts like pretty lingerie or family heirlooms.
Posted by Bubbalub[/QUOTE]

<div>Yep. </div>

NattyGal31

I agree, unless it is a "theme" shower, which I am not a huge fan of, the registry is the registry (or registries)