gift for my future husband

Alkalined13

Ok, my wedding is coming up pretty soon here, and I just wanted to know, should I get my future husband something? I doubt he would get me anything, but I am not sure. Should I ask? Should I just get him something anyway, and hope he won't feel bad if I get him something and he doesn't get me anything, or should I just not do anything? 

And if I do, what should I get him? He is not a suit person. His dad bought him a really nice watch about a year ago and he has worn it once. He really loves tech, but he buys everything he wants as soon as it comes out, he preorders video games, he really wants a puppy, but we can't get one until we have a house, and that is getting delayed until a bit after the wedding. He just doesn't like much, and what he does like, he buys himself. Help?

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Does he like you? Get him bpics.

NicoleSahara

I would talk to him about it. H and I decided not to get each other gifts before the wedding because we'd already spent enough money (and I had no idea what I would get him either). I did write him a nice card and had it delivered to him on the wedding day, you could do something like that if you don't want to do gifts.

mari0225

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[QUOTE]I would talk to him about it. H and I decided not to get each other gifts before the wedding because we'd already spent enough money (and I had no idea what I would get him either). I did write him a nice card and had it delivered to him on the wedding day, you could do something like that if you don't want to do gifts.
Posted by NicoleSahara[/QUOTE]

This. FI and I thought about gifts for each other but the wedding took a lot of money so we decided against gifts.

Maggie0829

H and I didn't buy each other anything.  Whatever money we would have spent on the gifts we just used on our honeymoon.  Just talk to your FI about the whole gift giving thing and make a decision that you are both comfortable with.

MiksChick23

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[QUOTE]I had some artwork commissioned of our dog, Moose.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

My dog is named Moose too! =)

OP, talk with him about it, set a budget. I would hate to have him go buy me something lavish and give him a card, or vice vera. We are paying for our own wedding, so that is our gift to each other.

I am still going to make him a "groom kit" from an idea I saw on pintrest. Will include: a watch "to get to the ceremony on time", a pair of socks "in case you get cold feet", a shot of Jack "to calm your nerves", a breath mint "for a tastey first kiss" and chapstick "for extra soft lips", among other things.

Meegles4

Ditto on the talking about it. FI and I discussed it early on and I told him I'd rather we just didn't exchange gifts. We've done the watches/jewelry thing and I really had no clue what else to get for him. I wanted to take us both off the hook. We're having an amazing wedding and honeymoon, I figure that's gift enough.

But, talking about it will make sure you guys are both on the same page. I'd also argue that if you do exchange gifts, they don't HAVE to be pricey/fancy things. Things from the heart work, too. Several months back I heard about a vintage board game about the Detroit Tigers. If I could actually find it, that's something I would have gotten for him, and it likely would be inexpensive.

JaxInBlue

Ditto PPs.  Talk about it and set some guidelines.  DH got me a bracelet I wore to our wedding; I got him a personalized jersey for our favorite sports team.  I don't think it's something you absolutely have to do - it was in our budget to exchange things and we wanted too, but it was a decision we made once we had a firm grip on how much our expenses were going to be.

Kate61487

definitely talk to him about it - you may decide that the wedding is your gift to each other; or the HM.

H and I agreed we'd do something small.  He got me a beautiful frame engraved with the lyrics to our first dance song.  I got him a gigantic slip-n-slide that we had set up at our rehearsal dinner (everyone but H knew about it, so everyone brought swim suits, I brought his).  He'd been jokingly asking/begging for me to let him have a slip-n-slide at our wedding since before we got engaged.

ECook25

Definitely talk to him about whether or not you want to exchange gifts, to avoid any uncomfortable situations.

Since it sounds like your guy is hard to buy "things" for, what about an experience for both of you?  Something like concert/sporting tickets, dinner at a special restaurant (like a place where you can sit at the chef's table in the kitchen), a lesson of some sort (i.e. a series of golf lessons that you'd do together, or a surfing lesson on your honeymoon).

You guys could even pick an experience that you want, and split the cost, and that could be your gift to each other (this is sort of what FI and I are doing, our gift to each other is an experience that we are equally paying for).

RussoWill

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: gift for my future husband : My dog is named Moose too! =) OP, talk with him about it, set a budget. I would hate to have him go buy me something lavish and give him a card, or vice vera. We are paying for our own wedding, so that is our gift to each other. I am still going to make him a "groom kit" from an idea I saw on pintrest. Will include: a watch "to get to the ceremony on time", a pair of socks "in case you get cold feet", a shot of Jack "to calm your nerves", a breath mint "for a tastey first kiss" and chapstick "for extra soft lips", among other things.
Posted by MiksChick23[/QUOTE]

Cute idea!!
I got my husband tickets to see his favorite band (they were playing in our city during the honeymoon and he was super bummed, so I got them for Philly). I vote experience if you can't think of a 'thing' to get him.

2012FutureMrsB

You could even just write heart-felt notes to each other, like how you want to spend the rest of your life with him, grow old with him, etc. (he might not be too emotional about it, but perhaps he could give you something else sentimental).

JennLax

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[QUOTE]I had some artwork commissioned of our dog, Moose.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

Cute!

FI and I haven't discussed this, but I saw lots of cute ideas on Pinterest.  I am thinking of using a deck of cards to make a "52 things I love about you" book.  I know we will be on a tight budget, so a DIY sentimental gift will be the way I go!

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