Photo Thank You Cards - Guest specific note?

jesibel14

Hub and I are sending out flat photo thank you cards and we're wondering if we have to write individual notes to each guest thanking them.

I thought it was 100% necessary to write out each note thanking the guest individually, however Hub feels differently.  We've had a few friends recently get married who did the photo thank you cards and they didn't write anything out (just a pre-printed thank you at the bottom of the photo).

What are your thoughts?  I'm leaning towards writing them out individually, but not if everyone on here feels it's unnecessary.

Gracias.

SaraAndrew2010

I definitely think it's necessary to hand write a note to everyone who gave you a gift.  They spent the time and money to give you a gift, the least you can do is to write a few personalized lines.

danieliza1127

I definitely think you should do a handwritten note that specifically mentions what they gave you as a gift.  It's the least you can do to thank someone for coming to your wedding and buying/giving you a gift.

ecsmiles

I'd write them individually - People will be touched you took the time.

FutureMrsTR

I think your H is feeling lazy.  And your other friends are lazy and, frankly, kind of rude.  You should absolutely hand write a thank you to each guest.

jesibel14

Thanks girls.  That's what I thought.

Carpal Tunnel here I come!

ehathewa

Please write a personalized note! 

lilianne22

I think you should include a hand written note.  How did you feel when you got a picture from them but no specific thank you sentiment? 

mkrupar

Handwriteen definitely. Include the photo with the card, but you should acknowledge your guests for spending their time to celebrate with you, and their money (for travel, gits, etc.) I know I feel all warm and gooey inside when I get a personalized thank you card.

noodle_oo

It is so rude to send a preprinted card!  Your instincts are correct, your H is wrong.  Almost as bad is just signing it "Love, Bride & Groom".  Also lame.  Write an actual, thoughtful note.  People appreciate it SO much!

Daipaiste

Yes, you absolutely need to include a handwritten personalized message.

tldh

Handwritten note.  No exceptions.  I think DH just doesn't want to write out the ones for his side.  It may sound mean but I think what he is proposing is even worse than preprinted Christmas cards.

Kristin789

>>Carpal Tunnel here I come!

Well, you can do all the work.
But I didn't and I think the job is too big for one person.  It's DH's wedding too, and in our case, DH did half of the work.

Here's how we EQUALLY SHARED the TY task:

We set aside three evenings when we both were available, and we both sat at the dining room table together to do this. 

DH came up with a standard template that I would personalize for each TY.

I hand-wrote all the note cards.

DH addressed all the envelopes by hand (even with handwriting that looks like a fifth grader), he put on the return address sticker on the back, and he stamped each envelope.

jesibel14

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_photo-thank-cards-guest-specific?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:9bdd15ba-6042-464f-9390-1e55dbdc7ccaPost:88604b3d-71f6-4333-b0c6-6b93b300e576">Re: Photo Thank You Cards - Guest specific note?</a>:
[QUOTE] />>Carpal Tunnel here I come! Well, you can do all the work. But I didn't and I think the job is too big for one person.  It's DH's wedding too, and in our case, DH did half of the work. Here's how we EQUALLY SHARED the TY task: We set aside three evenings when we both were available, and we both sat at the dining room table together to do this.  DH came up with a standard template that I would personalize for each TY. I hand-wrote all the note cards. DH addressed all the envelopes by hand (even with handwriting that looks like a fifth grader), he put on the return address sticker on the back, and he stamped each envelope.
Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

We do plan on doing them together...the carpal tunnel comment was a bit of a joke and a bit not, since we have 110 to write ;)

Thanks for your pointers.

PharmacyBride

When it is handwritten... people think you mean it (vs. just going through the motions)

I got a handwritten TY from a friend's wedding last year and he not only thanked us for the gift- but for dancing all night and "keeping the party going" - I still remember it because it felt personal and I know he (and his wife) had to write a ton.  It was prompt and personal!

People want to do nice things for you- go out of their way to make it that weekend- get you a nice gift... making them feel appreciated is crucial!