Shoes off

LizzyRB

At your wedding at any point did you take your shoes off to dance or maybe just because your feet hurt?

I'm starting to think about shoes and I am wondering if I should just wear a cute pair of flats or ballet slippers. I don't want to get my dress hemmed to match my heel height and then end up with it dragging if I switch later to flip flops/flats. Or perhaps if you bustle your dress maybe it doesn't matter?

Thoughts?

Avion22

I wish I had worn flats.  I tried wearing really nice heels, and made it through our first dance.  After that, I wore a pair of "emergency flats" that I thought to pack -- but they weren't pretty or cute with my dress.  I should have just found pretty flats and worn them all night.

AdeleDazeem

I wore flats.  I'm not a heels person.

I did take off my shoes halfway through - because our reception was on the beach :-)

msuprincess04

I plan on getting those platform flip-flops. They aren't as tall as my ceremony shoes, but they are close enough that my dress shouldn't drag too much. http://www.zappos.com/tommy-bahama-bimini-flip-flop-wedge-silver?ef_id=ebxOAc15Qm8AAMfK:20121220171743:s

unchatenfrance

When I wear heels, I'm the same height as my FI so I did not want to wear them on our wedding day (plus I knew I wouldn't last a whole day in heels anyway and wanted to avoid the hemming issue too.) I approached dress shopping with the premise that I would be wearing flats. I have disproportionately short legs so on most fitted silhouettes I need heels to balance me out, even though I'm not short. So I opted for a Basque-waist ball gown and these shoes in "Sex and the City blue":

http://www.milkandhoneyshoes.com/signature-collection/by-occasion-1/bridal/bow-tied.html

I was comfy all day and the dress camouflaged my stumpy legs PLUS I can wear these shoes again - a win-win-win situation!

I highly suggest flats. I'm so glad I wore them.

gundy21

I went with a mid heel (about 2.5") for my dressy (and green!) shoes for the ceremony and pics.  I wore a pair of ballroom dance heels (same heel height) for the reception.  Very comfy shoes - no issues with blisters.

s-aries8990

Victoria's Secret and rocket dog make some platform flip flops so your dress wont' drag a lot

TiffanyT816

I'll be wearing flats for our entire wedding. FI and I are very close to the same height and I don't want to tower over him. I have some awesome stiletto's that I plan on having on hand for a few pics, but that's it.

Maggie0829

I wore some fancy heels for my ceremony and a few pictures.  When it was time to head out on the football field (got married in a stadium) those suckers had to go.  I had bought a pair of soft wedge flip flops, the same height as my heels for the reception so I wasn't having to hold up or trip over my dress.  They were super comfortable and I wore them for the rest of the night without any issue.  I got them through VS and I think they were by Collin Stuart.

Calypso1977

if you buy comfortable shoes you shouldnt need to take them off.

i personally find it in poor taste (not to mention a health code violation) when people take their shoes off at weddings. 

AdeleDazeem

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[QUOTE]I wore some fancy heels for my ceremony and a few pictures.  When it was time to head out on the football field (got married in a stadium) those suckers had to go.  I had bought a pair of soft wedge flip flops, the same height as my heels for the reception so I wasn't having to hold up or trip over my dress.  They were super comfortable and I wore them for the rest of the night without any issue.  I got them through VS and I think they were by Collin Stuart.
Posted by Maggie0829[/QUOTE]

Maggie - could you make a married bio, pleaseandthankyou?

All your siggy pictures are beautiful and now you're telling me you got married in a stadium.  It all sounds awesome.

AddieCake

I had to take my shoes off for the ceremony because of wet ground, but I wore them for the reception. We didn't have dancing and it was only a couple hours, though. I think it depends on the shoes and how used to wearing heels you are. I am very used to wearing heels, so I don't think I would have taken them off. 

Peledreamsofrain

I went barefoot at my wedding because:

A.) I'm freakishly tall and my dress would have been too short otherwise
B.) I love going barefoot at other times, why should this be different
C.) It got me out of wearing ugly overly expensive "wedding' flats
D.) I got to wear custom designed foot jewlery!!!


Nobody really noticed that I was barefoot until I showed them my awesome jewelry.  It was a blast!

phoebeann44

I watch My Fair Wedding with David Tuttera and he physically cringes when he hears brides or bridesmaids say they will take their shoes off. There are several companies that make bridal shoes with extra padding to make them super comfortable, or you could go with flats, if anything I would say to wear whatever shoes you pick around the house for a day then you can judge whether or not you can stand to wear them for hours! Also I have a slight horror story, my sister went to a school to learn how to cut and color hair and several of the other girls would walk around barefoot while cutting hair!!! She was disgusted, there are several diseases you can get from walking around barefoot especially since recently cut hair is fine enough to act like a splinter and stick into your feet!

anastassiiat

I plan on wearing hills and bringing a pair of flats just in case. I'm used to wearing hills every day though, so I think as long as I break them in prior to the wedding I'll be fine.

bunni727

I wore heels, and stayed in them almost the whole time. I changed into flats when we started tearing things down, but with my dress length it didn't matter.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]I watch My Fair Wedding with David Tuttera and he physically cringes when he hears brides or bridesmaids say they will take their shoes off. There are several companies that make bridal shoes with extra padding to make them super comfortable, or you could go with flats, if anything I would say to wear whatever shoes you pick around the house for a day then you can judge whether or not you can stand to wear them for hours! Also I have a slight horror story, my sister went to a school to learn how to cut and color hair and several of the other girls would walk around barefoot while cutting hair!!! She was disgusted, there are several diseases you can get from walking around barefoot especially since recently cut hair is fine enough to act like a splinter and stick into your feet!
Posted by phoebeann44[/QUOTE]

He also cringes when the bride refuses to cover her tattoos, or when the bridesmaids don't drop their lives upon command to dote upon the wedding.  So, take what he thinks with a grain of salt.

I'm not sure what diseases you are talking about besides tetnus from a possible cut.  But if humanity was as fragile as to get disease from stepping on hair, we really wouldn't have made it to this point.  How are you going to get sick from hair by touching it with your feet, and not your hands?  After all, your hands go in and near your mouth and face.  If anything, those are three times as gross as feet for germ-factor.

People who are afraid of feet get a big ol confused shrug from me.  I seriously don't get it.

QueerFemme

Disclaimer, I love shoes.  I think shoes complete an outfit.  I think even flat shoes or sneakers should be stylish, unless you are at the gym.

So, I wore heels. I painstakingly searched for the right color wine/sangria heels.  I finally found the exact pair I wanted online, only to find out that they were from the Badgley Mischka 2010 line, and were sold out everywhere. Except Nordstroms online had ONE pair, in a size 10.  I ended up going to the Nordstroms concierge at my local SF store, and they hunted down a pair in a storage room in Boston, and they shipped them to me.  It was like a cinderella moment. They fit perfectly. 

Then, I decided, hmmmm.  I normally rock pretty high heels, and wear them easily for 4-5 hours, but I was going to be on my feet ALL day, so decided I wanted a pair of flats.  But, wanted them similar in style/design/color.  So, I found a pair of dyables that had the same peep toe and bejeweled accents, and had them dyed to match my Badgleys. 

I got my dress hemmed so my heels would just sort of peek out.  When I was in my heels, my dress swept the ground, but not enough for me to really trip over.  Although, it without even realizing I was doing it, I constantly lifted the front of my dress up, regardless of which shoes I had on.  I routinely do that when I'm wearing long dresses, and I did it all day in my wedding gown, and didn't realize I had been doing that until I got my photos back.

So, that's a long way of saying.  I did both. 

ETA:  and bare feet sort of gross me out, so I wasn't going bare footed.  I also did the flip flop basket, which I know some people here frown upon and say it's unncessary, but it was a huge hit, and we ended up with a lot of people in flip flops at the end of the night.

stantokm

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[QUOTE]Check out Hey Lady Wedding Shoes online. They're sworn to be crazy comfortable and wearable all day. I bought the Twinkletoes Wedgie, and they're super cushioned and just the right height for me.
Posted by Sleeper2013[/QUOTE]

I just got their Knotty Girl shoes in the mail.  I can attest to them being comfortable, but I haven't worn them for a long period of time yet.  Mine cost $280, though, and that price would turn most people off (it turned me off, but I couldn't find anything else that came close to what I wanted in the right heel height).

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shoes off : Maggie - could you make a married bio, pleaseandthankyou? All your siggy pictures are beautiful and now you're telling me you got married in a stadium.  It all sounds awesome.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

Working on it now...that is if my lovely computer cooperates :)

itzMS

I wore some very fancy flats by Kate Spade. I figured since it WAS my wedding day, I should fancy it up a bit.

I've been a bridesmaid in weddings where the bride mandated we wear heels. I like heels. I can walk well in heels. But, I just about died standing so long in those things during the ceremony and related events. Ouchie.

Kate61487

I am not a big heel girl - I never wear high heels unless I'm going to a wedding or other fancy occassion; I live my life in ballet flats.  That said; I had my heart set on blue peep toes for my wedding - I suppose if I'd found a pair of flats that fit the bill I would have gone with it, but what I found was a short heel (1.5 or 2 inches I'd guess?).  With them on my dress was perfect off the rack and didn't require any hemming.  I switched into flip flops at the reception and with the bustle didn't really notice it dragging at all. I can see how it would be an issue if you were wearing 4-5" heels and then going barefoot; but with a 1.5" difference I didn't notice a problem.

I'd say see what you find that you love.  If you can find flats - great! but if you fall in love with a pair of heels there are other options (like the platform flipflops).

cwaggoner07

I was convinced that I could wear my heels all day.... but all day pretty much means 9ish hours, and I ended up barefoot at the end of the night dancing. I wish I would have had flats, or just ANYTHING to change into. Plus our venue was concrete floors and they were NOT easy on my feet.

mcda04

I did a little bit of everything. I wore heels for the ceremony and most of the reception. Then I was barefoot (about 30 min.) because my feet hurt and I couldn't find my sandals  I eventually found them and wore them till midnight.

I wear heels everyday and mine were REALLY comfortable but I think 9 hours was pushing it.

Peledreamsofrain

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Shoes off: I don't know if this is what pp is referring to, but I do know that most salons have a no bare feet policy for safety reasons, because the hair does have a splinter like effect and can cause infection on top of spreading fungus and other issues. I'm sure your hands touch a lot more germs, but I've never known anyone to get athlete's hand from going in the shower without gloves.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

That is interesting that you can get hair embedded, I didn't know that.

Actually, you can get an infection underneath the nails on your fingers, just like on your feet.  It's less common because people wash their hands more often, but it can happen.  I have to admit, I never use public showers, they squick me out hardcore.

JoanE2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>if you buy comfortable shoes you shouldnt need to take them off.</strong> i personally find it in poor taste (not to mention a health code violation) when people take their shoes off at weddings. 
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

It's really hard to know if shoes are going to be comfortable before the wedding day.  I tried to wear mine around the house a little to break them in, but I didn't want to scuff up the bottoms (to use shoes in photos) so I was limited to a small area with carpet. 

In the end, I wore my shoes all day until the last hour when I couldn't take it anymore and switched into ballet flats.  I ended up with two huge blisters.

erinlin25

I love wearing heels, but come dancin time they have to go!  So, I will rock the heels for the ceremony and pics; but at the reception I will most likely have flip flops. 

phoebeann44

In Response to Re:Shoes off:[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Shoes off:I watch My Fair Wedding with David Tuttera and he physically cringes when he hears brides or bridesmaids say they will take their shoes off. There are several companies that make bridal shoes with extra padding to make them super comfortable, or you could go with flats, if anything I would say to wear whatever shoes you pick around the house for a day then you can judge whether or not you can stand to wear them for hours! Also I have a slight horror story, my sister went to a school to learn how to cut and color hair and several of the other girls would walk around barefoot while cutting hair!!! She was disgusted, there are several diseases you can get from walking around barefoot especially since recently cut hair is fine enough to act like a splinter and stick into your feet!Posted by phoebeann44He also cringes when the bride refuses to cover her tattoos, or when the bridesmaids don't drop their lives upon command to dote upon the wedding.nbsp; So, take what he thinks with a grain of salt.I'm not sure what diseases you are talking about besides tetnus from a possible cut.nbsp; But if humanity was as fragile as to get disease from stepping on hair, we really wouldn't have made it to this point.nbsp; How are you going to get sick from hair by touching it with your feet, and not your hands?nbsp; After all, your hands go in and near your mouth and face.nbsp; If anything, those are three times as gross as feet for germfactor.People who are afraid of feet get a big ol confused shrug from me.nbsp; I seriously don't get it. Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]
I do take what he says with a grain of salt but you can get tetanus, hookworms or a few other skin diseases from walking around barefoot on hair since it does behave like splinters. Hair stylists also get splinters in their fingers or hands from hair but since most people wash their hands several times a day compared to washing their feet only when they shower the risk of infection is higher. Bare feet don't bother me in most circumstances, I'll be getting married in my parents back yard in the summertime and will most likely be barefoot, there are just some places it is very unhygienic.

Dreamergirl8812

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Cackle6

I had planned on wearing a shorter heel and then changing into flats. However, I fell in LOVE with a purple pair of heels with roses on them, and couldn't pass them up (my middle name is Rose so it was just too perfect, heh). However, I also am probably one of the few people who had the train removed from my dress, and also wanted my dress hemmed while I was barefoot. I wanted it to be a few inches off the ground in heels - I wanted my shoes to peek through, and it turned out perfect for me.

LizzyRB

ISo cute!!!!

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