Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be

chattychiqa

rude when choosing items for your registry? I ask because there are a set of plates I like, but have mixed feelings about keeping on the registry. I don't know I'd ever buy them for myself, much less someone else. I think it may be rude of me to include them. http://www.lenox.com/cat/index.cfm?fuseaction=prod&pid=35010&kf=55

baystateapple

Most people say to include items in a variety of prices to your registry.  People will decide for themselves what they want to buy for a gift.  China is one of those things that some people love to buy for weddings.  Those pieces are pricey, but I think that's pretty standard for fine china.  If people want to buy it for you, they will.  If not, they won't. 

Maggie0829

Honestly that is what I think a registry is for.  When H and I registered we put items on there that we would never buy for ourselves (price point didn't matter, some items were inexpensive like a cupcake carrier, while others were really expensive like a Dyson vacuum).  We treated our registry as a place to ask for items that we would like to have but wouldn't be devastated not getting.

adamar15

As long as you have a good range of items on your registry I think you're fine to have pricier china on there.

Meegles4

I love those plates.

My china pattern was Kate Spade and the price point was the same. I had no qualms about putting it on my registry.

That being said, we only got one place setting. But, we also registered for everyday dishes (which were fulfilled) and also live in an area where cash is the most popular gift. So I don't think it was the price that dissuaded people as much as other factors.

I'd include them on the registry and see what happens. Some people go in on gifts together. Shoot, I got my Kitchenaid mixer b/c 8 of my girlfriends went in on it. When I first registered for it, my mom thought I was crazy because they're so expensive.

And, if you don't end up getting any, but you still want china, you can use any money you get from the wedding to purchase it, or you can purchase it over time or ask for it for Christmas/Bdays, etc. Registries often give fulfillment discounts, too, so that's another pro to registering for it with the possibility of buying it later at a discount.

ETA: If you register for it at BBB, they do so many coupons that your guests could end up purchasing it cheaper than the retail price.

kimandjosh22

If you love it, register for it.  You might think about what you would do if you don't get the 8,10,12 or however many place settings you're hoping to have. do they have a completion program?
I know my mother registered for china, and didn't receive all the pieces she wanted, I think some thanksgivings when she has to mix her everyday stuff with her nice china she wishes she had bought the last 3-4 sets before they stopped making her pattern.

aragx6

We have some things that are far more expensive than that on our registry -- but we also have a ton of stuff that's less expensive. As long as you have a fair amount of diversity in prices, I think having some more expensive stuff is just fine.

krizzo17

As long as you have a wide range of price points, I think those are fine (they're actually less than my china, so I hope that's fine!) Also consider sales where you are registering. My china is $199 a place setting at Macys, usually on sale for $120, and often on sale buy one get one free. And know your audience; if most of the women in your life have fine china, they'll likely buy it for you. If most people you know are more paper plates kinda people, they might not understand why someone would want china. Worst case scenario, people give cash, you use that with completion discount to buy the china yourself.

chattychiqa

My everyday ones are plain white Corelle...these are a huge splurge!! I was honestly kind of perplexed by the possibility that I may just get 2 or 3...then what? They're nothing I'd buy for myself! :-)

brilibby4

I don't think it is rude at all!  The only thing I would think about though, is what you will do if only a few place settings are purchased for you.  You said you wouldn't buy them for yourself, but having 2 or 3 place settings is pretty much pointless.  You would have to decide to either finish the set yourself, or try to return the ones that were gifted to you.

Mmoray

<div>Thanks for posting this link! My mom always talks about how my grandma wishes she had a few more pieces in her china pattern (but of course, it has long been discontinued). </div><div>
</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_poll-is-there-a-amount-you-consider-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c6dec3b-14a8-40ff-aa12-1240544a705cPost:5bf359a2-7f1d-4340-8ae1-d5e13f8be442">Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be : <strong><a href="http://www.replacements.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.replacements.com</a></strong> ^^ she should be able to find pieces on that site.  We inherited china from h's grandma and I had to replace a few pieces.  The back of a dinner plate should have the info on the company/pattern that made her china. OP, I don't think $139 is that bad for a place setting like that.  I think you just need to be willing to put the money out to buy the rest of your sets if you don't receive them all.  If you register for 6 and only get 3, those 3 sets are fairly useless.
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Mmoray

<div>Thanks for posting this link! My mom always talks about how my grandma wishes she had a few more pieces in her china pattern (but of course, it has long been discontinued). </div><div>
</div>In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_poll-is-there-a-amount-you-consider-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c6dec3b-14a8-40ff-aa12-1240544a705cPost:5bf359a2-7f1d-4340-8ae1-d5e13f8be442">Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be : <strong><a href="http://www.replacements.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.replacements.com</a></strong> ^^ she should be able to find pieces on that site.  We inherited china from h's grandma and I had to replace a few pieces.  The back of a dinner plate should have the info on the company/pattern that made her china. OP, I don't think $139 is that bad for a place setting like that.  I think you just need to be willing to put the money out to buy the rest of your sets if you don't receive them all.  If you register for 6 and only get 3, those 3 sets are fairly useless.
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rlavach

I agree that if you like the pattern and feel that you'd use it, then put it. I know a lot of women don't feel the need for china, but it was something really meaningful for me. I registered for an $89 setting from Noritake, but I don't think $139 is that bad for Kate Spade. Like others said, if someone wants to spend that money, they will, regardless of what the gift is. 

The likelihood of you receiving all or some of it really varies on the budgets of your guests and what is common in your area. In some areas, china is the go-to gift for the wedding. In others, it's for the shower. In my area, china isn't given much. We registered for 12 china settings, 12 crystal goblets & 12 settings of flatware. We received ONE china setting and ONE crystal goblet at our shower & only cash/checks at our wedding. We bought 3 more so we have at least 4 now. I highly doubt we'll ever splurge for the rest of it, but money might start growing on trees one of these days! 

notyetavet

The only time I think it's rude is if you ONLY have things in that price range on your registry.  As PPs have said, if the guest thinks the setting is too expensive, they can buy something else.  

When we were going through some of our marriage prep through the church, one couple mentioned that they got 5 or 6 sets of china from their registry and then they bought another set or two when they were celebrating other events until they had enough to consider their collection complete.  

FWIW, the china we registered for was about $150 per place setting and FI's mom and aunt bought us 8 settings because china is a big deal in their family.  However, we only got 2 sets of the matching flatware so I think we'll return those to complete our set of (nice) everyday flatware that is nearly fulfilled.  

kimandjosh22

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_poll-is-there-a-amount-you-consider-to-be?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:9c6dec3b-14a8-40ff-aa12-1240544a705cPost:5bf359a2-7f1d-4340-8ae1-d5e13f8be442">Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Poll: Is there a $$ amount you consider to be : <a href="http://www.replacements.com" rel="nofollow">http://www.replacements.com</a> ^^ she should be able to find pieces on that site.  We inherited china from h's grandma and I had to replace a few pieces.  The back of a dinner plate should have the info on the company/pattern that made her china. OP, I don't think $139 is that bad for a place setting like that.  I think you just need to be willing to put the money out to buy the rest of your sets if you don't receive them all.  If you register for 6 and only get 3, those 3 sets are fairly useless.
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Thanks! I'll pass that on to her.  She has since inherreted my grandmother's china, which is a complete set...but maybe she would like to finish her set as well

I'm so glad I didn't have to think about china, My Great-Grandmother's china is in a box in my parents basement for me.

jemmini6

It's rude if the only (or a majority) things you have on your registry are $100+.  To me, that says that you expect everyone to spend at least that on you.

If you have a few pricey items, and a lot more low to mid priced items, then that's more along the lines of a wishlist.  Some people will splurge and get it for you, others might go in on it, or people might assume you'll use your cash gifts to complete your registry.

DanniLynn88

We had items from $6 up to $600. Sometimes people would group together and get items. You may be surprised. My mom's friend was invited to wedding and shower. She got us two items over $100 each for shower. Sometimes people want small items too. I would add what you want, noone needs to buy them.

divinemsbee

I think that's fine, and, as a PP said, they can always buy it somewhere like BBB or even most department stores that sell china have a lot of sales on it as their wedding seasons come up. I'm registered for my china (Wedgewood, it's about $140 a setting retail and I love it) at a regional department store and it's over 40% off right now because it's almost June, and it comes with a free soup bowl. Look into what kind of sales on china where you're registered offers. Register at a place that is convenient to your guests that has a lot of coupons if you're really worried about price. 

The best advice I got when making my registry was that it's a registry, not a subpoena. You're not saying "you must buy me this" you're simply pointing people in the right direction. As long as you have a varied price range, you'll be fine. However, if your china isn't something that's important to you and that you would finish, I might not register for it at all. I know that I won't get all 12 settings plus serving pieces, but I also know that I'll keep buying it before it might be discontinued, so it's worth it for me to only get 3 or so settings and a creamer. 

hoffse

It's a perfectly normal price for china - I know a lot of girls that go a lot higher than that to get Herend and Royal Crown Derby, etc.  If you only get a few place settings you can return it or you can just suck it up and splurge on it yourself.  I know you say you'd never buy it for yourself but you really might find yourself willing between what you get outright and what you get in giftcards.