Do you invite your officiant?

Sassenach1743

Just wondering.... 

Fiance and I are having duel officiants. He is Christian and I am Jewish. His uncle (an invited guest and family member) is a pastor, and we will be asking him to co-officiate our ceremony. We are also having our Rabbi (we attend temple together, regularly) co-officiate our ceremony. 

My question is; do we invite the Rabbi to the wedding? We don't necessarily have a personal relationship with him or his family. We see him at Shabbat services and socialize at temple functions, etc. but that's all. 

I wouldn't think to invite him as a guest, but I just wanted to ask. Same thing for the Rehearsal Dinner... do we in invite him to the dinner after the rehearsal? 

Please advise

joleri23

I'm actually not sure about the rehearsal dinner, but I believe you should send him an invitation to the reception. He may decline, but it's the proper-etiquette thing to do. We're having my best friend marry us so like your uncle co-officiating for you, we didn't have to think about it!

GardenMaven

Yes, you shoul dinvite him to the reception.  I recently asked about who to invite to the rehearsal dinner. If he is present at the rehearsal, you should invite him and his SO to the dinner.  I attended a Jewish wedding where neither the bride or groom lived in the state they got married in.  They barely knew the Rabbi who married them, but he was present at the reception.  Hope that helps!

getaclue44

Yes to both. He might decline, but he needs to be invited to both.

shine882007

We are inviting ours to both rehearsal dinner and reception.

bridalmarch

We're having a Catholic ceremony with two officiants, but both are old family friends of my FI so they're both invited to the RD and reception. 

I think you should at least extend the invite. 

[Deleted User]

I know the answer is yes, but now, I'm wondering, do you send him a formal invitation? I have no problem doing so, but I want to make sure it's not weird if I do!

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Do you invite your officiant?: I would send a formal invite to the wedding. We didn't do formal invitations to the rehearsal dinner, so we just told everyone the location and time, that we would be serving dinner afterwards, and that their spouses, boyfriends, etc were welcome.
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</div><div>Ok, thanks, Stage. Same goes for Videographer/Photographer, or is that kind of a given, since they are still "working" during that time?

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[Deleted User]

Awesome. Thanks for the question OP, as it obviously helped me too. Thanks, Stage.

Jen4948

I think you should invite your officiants and their partners.

32daisies

Our officiant told us from the get-go that while she was happy to perform our ceremony, she would not be able to attend the reception, without us bringing it up. So that was that for us... but we would have invited her otherwise.

Did you hire your photographer or DJ yet? Because sometimes it's right in the contract. The DJ stipulated he needs to be fed. The photographers told us it was entirely our call. We decided that since they'll be with us all night, the least we can do is buy them dinner. But it was clear in the contract that we didn't have to.

eelsbury08

Yes you invite you officient to the rehersal dinner and to the reception. It is rude not to. I am inviting mine's wife also.

Sassenach1743

Thanks everyone!