Stepmom Issues

raeclassof2006

Where to start? My mom passed away about 7 years ago. My dad remarried and the woman is a nightmare. She is overbearing, pushy, and very opinionated. Anyone have any ideas on how to deal with her as I plan my wedding? I'm not getting married till Oct. 22, 2011. But I need advice now. I don't know whether to take her with me when I go dress shopping or how much I want to include her in the planning. Any advice would be much appreciated.

emilyinchile

Why would you include her in anything extra if you don't like her? Just invite her to the wedding, RD and possibly a shower if one is thrown for you, but don't talk planning ideas or bring her on shopping trips.

hd7694

First of all you should change your sn.  It is never a good idea to put private information out there for everyone to see.

Second, I wouldn't include her in any more than you are comfortable with.  If you don't want to go dress shopping with her then don't.

callalilly323

If she's a horror then set boundaries early!! I've been planning basically my whole wedding on my own, reaching out to my mom or friends when I need to make a do or die decision. Only take people who will make you feel like the most beautiful person in the room on the day you get your dress. You do NOT need to include her in anything you don't want.

danieliza1127

You don't have to include her in the roles where your Mom traditionally would be.

TheCranberry

I agree with PP.  If you don't want her to be involved in the intimate details don't invite her.  But you should also not discuss them with her or around her because that will invite her to offer her opinion and it sounds like you really don't want it.

Celles

Treat her like your dad's date.  She should attend all events to which the rest of the the wedding party's spouses are invited, but doesn't need to come to any of the mother-daughter "extras," like dressing shopping, fittings, etc.

raeclassof2006

Thanks everyone for their advice. I've talked to couple of family/friends and they all think that I'm going to have to ask her/should ask her to be a part of everything, just cause she's my dads wife. Even my dad said he doesn't want me to ask her to go dress shopping with me. If I did ask her to go with me though, I'm thinking about asking my dad to go with me also. Is that weird? Everyone I've mentioned that too thinks is weird if I as my dad.

 Unforunately, hd7694, I can't change my sn, I tried, unless I'm doing something wrong.  

aggiebug

I have no stepmom advice.  But I would reccomend deleting your current knot account and get a new one with a screename that is not your email address.   you will end up getting flooded with porn emails and there are creepers that stalk this site and could target you easliy with that sn.