So I am having two showers in one weekend. One is hosted by FMIL and a BM and the other is hosted by one of FI's aunts on the other side of his family. It's not ideal, but it worked with their schedules. How should I split up my guest list? Do you think it's acceptable to 'double dip" with the BM's and invite them to both, just making it known when I talk to them that they are NOT expected to come to both (or either). With other friends/family, should I invite half to each so I possibly have some at both or also send them both invites and let them choose which one to attend (I'd hate to send someone an invite for Sat. and they can't come, but WOULD have come to the Sun. shower. However, I also hate to look gift grabby by sending two).