Situation 2: B/G: My brother had a baby with someone who is now his ex. The kid is going to be our ringbearer. During the day, the ex's mom watches kid, and occasionally my sister will go pick him up to play. Another of my sisters adopted a dog from the ex's mom (we'll call her gma). So they have established a bit of a relationship with gma, and we see her at kid's birthday parties and stuff but she and I aren't close. We make small talk and are nice to each other and she sometimes emails or texts me pictures of the kid (he is my godson), but I'm actually quite uncomfortable around her since she has a tendancy to say really bizarre and inappropriate things. And she keeps encouraging my brother and the ex to have another kid, since kid 1 is so cute. Bro and ex basically can't stand each other, plus ex is now dating bro's (now ex) best friend. Ex is invited to the wedding because kid is in it and ex and I are fine, but gma is not invited to the wedding, nor did it ever cross my mind to invite her.
End b/g. The wedding is in 5 days. In the last few weeks, gma has been pestering her daughter and my 2 sisters to beg me for an invitation, because she wants to see kid go down the aisle in his little tux. Gma has seen him in the tux already at home. Ex flatly refused to beg me for an invitation and told gma if she isn't invited it's not up to her to beg for it. My sisters, on the other hand, felt it was their personal responsibility to get gma invited. One even offered to pay for her and bring her as her date. :P They said I have to because she's family, to which I responded she is kid's gma, not mine.
2 days ago, I received an email from gma: "Would it be okay to stand at the back during your wedding? I won't let Kid see me, but I wanted to see him walk down the aisle in his tux. And, of course, see you guys get married.
If not, no problem."
I was floored. Lol I'm starting to hate email. I haven't responded because again, don't know what to say to that. I really don't want her there and will feel bad if she shows up because we aren't inviting anyone to the ceremony and not the reception, and vice versa. What do you say to someone asking permission to crash your wedding? I know her well enough to know that if she does come to the ceremony, she will weasle her way in to the reception as well. How would you handle this?
Situation 3 will be in a seperate post. Any advice you have would be greatly appreciated.